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met my future wife on tinder almost 6 years ago and that absolutely wouldn't have happened otherwise because I don't Go Out

 

i also met mine on tinder

 

lmao no wayyyy

 

Who has the time and confidence to go out and meet people these days

 

josh you go to the movies and church daily

 

Don’t get me we wrong, the apps blow and can’t believe I found myself on one. But I’ll take it over initially meeting a rando in public. For the most part. A few spontaneous exceptions but definitely not intentionally going out and searching.

EDIT: I’m also not on a “dating” app per se so maybe that’s the difference.

 

Hinge profiles are the most vague I’ve seen on the major apps. So many that tell you absolutely nothing about the person. You basically have to just go by photos.

 

My friend met his now wife throough some app called coffee meets bagel or some shit lol

 

I was never good at just going up to someone but in my brief time of being single after turning 21 (and i guess this applies to house parties before that), it mostly happened via either music or drinking games where I found someone having just as good a time as I was and then we'd start talking from there haha. Basically how I met my wife at a "pre-game" where we were playing some version of beer Olympics or something and me and her partnered up.

I think I'm too much of a wuss/anxious to just go up to someone standing at the bar haha

 

that’s totally different though than me being 34 and just wandering up and hitting on someone at a bar, just the thought makes me feel like a creep. if something organically happens that’s different.

 

I’ve only ever gone up to a woman once at a bar and that’s because my friends pressured me into it. It was awful.

 

I’m pretty sure I saw that app on shark tank lol

 

Met my wife at a bar. Was there to play pool. Asked the people sitting near by if they knew how long the people on the table had been there already to get an idea of how long the wait would be. Kept talking a bit while waiting.

If you're doing something creepy, it'll be creepy and you'll feel weird and awkward and everyone will pick up on it. If you're organically talking to someone, it won't. The problem is everyone has "hitting on someone at a bar" as the weird creepy sitcom/PUA "have a line" garbage in their head as what it should be and that's way wrong.

The person sitting at a bar/restaurant/whatever alone, headphones on, with a book, giving off leave me alone vibes, they wanna be left alone. I'd say 95% of the time you can pick up the right vibe just if you make eye contact with someone, that other 5% comes pretty fast if you say hi and what the response is. In a city, usually doesn't take long to know which places (and at what times) are single people mingling and out to meet people vs people just out for dinner or a drink.

 

I hate that I knew what they were talking about right away.

It's not a terrible plan. More time for games, am I right?

 

Neither of these are true

 

yeah this is true I guess but I don’t ever go out somewhere by myself and want someone to talk to me

 

Dating apps were sweet, like, a decade ago because they weren’t all owned and paywalled by Match. Gonna look into Hinge once I feel like I’m in the mental space to date again.

 

I met my wife on Facebook. Some real Millennial shit.

 

I once filled out an eHarmony profile for kicks and it told me straight up that I was incompatible. True story.

 

yeah hinge still tries to get you to upgrade but it shows when some likes you and you can match them and vice versa. You have to upload a certain number of pictures and answer a certain amount of prompts so you get at least some info about the person.

 

I found hinge super intimidating. Really not a big fan of the "swipe to make an instant judgement of someone" concept though. And all the apps seem to be designed to lower your self esteem enough that you'll pay them in hopes of actually getting some matches.