(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 400

I don't think any of the people I dated actually lived in the same town as me.

I was weird as a teen and always wanted some separation.

 

I did long distance once and then he moved to my town and it was RIP that relationship.

 

i relate to this

 

me and my so are trying to move in together this summer and just planning it has already been terrible. my lease is up at the end of the month and her lease is up at the end of aug, and she's basically putting all the burden on me to plan everything out. like she is expecting me to either sublease, find somewhere month-to-month, or sign a lease that would allow me to sublease. my financial situation at the moment might not even allow me to get a place on time, and when i expressed this to her--thinking she might offer me housing for a month (or even a couple weeks)--she said "i'm sorry. i hope you figure it out." between my budget and the above stipulations, finding a place in three weeks is next to impossible. when i brought up other options like maybe she could sublease her room for a few months, she got really upset and said that would be asking too much. i feel like i shouldn't have to directly ask her to if i could stay with her for a little bit in april until my funding comes though. it just makes me feel like she either a) doesn't give a shit or b) doesn't really want to move in together (even though she has tried to assure me she really does).

sorry in advance, i needed this rant. my stress levels right now are fucking crazy between this, school, and work.

 

sorry to hear this, man. never fun having to juggle so many stress-inducing responsibilities. not that I'm a prime example, but after a response like that, I'd approach finding a place as if I wasn't moving in with my so. it wouldn't even be out of spite. making a decision to move in with someone isn't one to take lightly, so I wouldn't hold it against them for appearing apathetic/apprehensive. it really would be to make sure i'm good to go whether moving in together or not.

 

Today was my one year anniversary with my girlfriend!

 

I did long distance for like a month. Boy was that a long fucking month

 

I'll be doing long distance for at least the next two years starting in June.

 

This doesn't sound ideal. She sounds kind of lukewarm, based on what you've said there. In my experience, that is not a good start to moving in together. I feel like you're between a rock and a hard place. I'd agree with the other poster that you should try finding a place to live as though you're not moving in together. I would also consider explaining to her that, with your current situation, you can't afford what she's suggesting on your own right now.

Unfortunately, she might take that as you not being interested in moving in with her. But, I don't know if that's better than you moving to a place where you obviously can't live together.

I don't know anything about US renting (I presume you're in the US). Is it possible to get a monthly rolling contract somewhere, so that you can move in together when her lease runs out?

 

From my perspective, it seems as though she does not want to live with you and is having a difficult time being honest about it due to her own circumstances. On the other hand, putting myself in her shoes, it occurs to me that the request to stay with her isn't a small one, so perhaps you should take that into consideration as well.

 

I think I could live with long distance for a bit as long as there was a set end date. We both like our space at times

 

That also happened to me. It's usually one or the other haha

 

^that makes a good case, for a certain type of person anyway

 

I think I've had enough of long distance thanks. It's just a shame the one actual in person proper, normal relationship I had was a waste. Lol

 

I'm a bit of a loner. I think that's why I appreciate long distance relationships.

 

Went on a coffee date yesterday. There was no connection but at least I proved to myself that I can still talk to people haha.

 

Tinder is going well

 

Dude did not deserve you.

 

I went on a date with a girl that our mutual friend had introduced us. went to the museum and then to grab sushi. accidentally ordered too much sushi because we thought we were ordering 2 pieces of sushi each, not 2 orders of sushi. asked her to split the check. Oh also, another fun tidbit



















Our waitress was a former tinder hookup of mine

 

speaking of long distance...my last girlfriend and i went to college 1.5 hours apart 2 years, then she moved to spain for 2 years, we had a 1-2 together in the same city, and then she moved to california and we broke up a couple months later. i don't mind some separation but dear god that sucked.

 

im in such a weird position with my ex.....and i keep trying to push away but now we are going to a show together on tuesday. like WHY DID I DO THAT

 

nooooooooo

 

we literally talked today and i told him we need to spend time apart without contact and then five minutes later we have plans to go to a show together............from the way it seems though i think its gonna be like one last hooray spending time together though.