(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 373

Dating sucks so I dived through that needle-head sized loophole known as friend dating and stuck to it like my life depended on it till it worked out lol.

 

I always lol when I'm watching a show and they're like "I haven't had a date in three weeks! The world is ending!" Like chill.

 

I was always one of those people that found people quick and go on "relationship sprees" - year here, 6 months there, etc. (which probably didn't help the probability of things working - even meeting my fiancee I was on the hangover of a terrible relationship ending) but then go on like a year single stint where I'm just breathing out lmao.

 

like it's sad that Ross has some time alone but not sad that Joey can't go a week without having a one night stand

 

I find it funny when people be like "I've been single for 2 months" or something like that and whine how there isn't anyone out there and they're going to be "forever alone" yet they get into relationships often and have no issue finding a mate

 

I've had plenty of dates and FWB but I haven't had a legit boyfriend in years.

 

I've only been with 2 people sexually outside relationships, one ended up in a stalking the other just happened, it was enjoyed for the time being and ultimately realized as not right and never spoke of again lol. Ever since then I couldn't do anything outside the realm of a basic level of investment in someone.

 

I feel like college is the time to "find yourself" and figure out what you want in a partner. I consider myself fairly outgoing and been on a couple dates since I started college but nothing's really clicked yet. I just feel like everyone else is passing me by on that front. I graduate next year so any new relationship is gonna have to move along quick or be long distance and that freaks me out.

 

I tend to attract the bizarro ones. I don't say that lightly either. Some people think I put myself in those situations and I'm like why? Because I'm standing here breathing not doing anything to attract that kind of attention?

 

jesus christ you're a top pick apparently

 

this second half is basically me right now. Feeling like I need to have/pursue an interest in any girl I'm slightly interested in.

Currently have nothing and feeling bummed out/somewhat hopeless, over the previously referenced situation

 

You're absolutely right. I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to better myself and figure out what I want, it's been a long time since I've had my own identity.

 

I've only had two real relationships. One when I was 19 that lasted a year and a half, and then one when I was 22 that lasted two and a half years.

 

My longest was 5 yrs.

 

I was single for four and a half years before my current gf. No hook ups or flings or anything

 

I've never had a hook up or a fling haha, just two serious relationships, which is mostly why I feel pretty anxious about trying to date

 

I have been single for 5 years. Doesn't feel like I've been single so long tho. A lot of that time was spent figuring out myself. Which, I never understood what that meant until I got out of an abusive relationship and I had to spend a lot of time looking inwardly at myself. It took like a year to become a person again before I could even process anything. I had a LOT of low self esteem and societal influence issues that led me down that road so I had to work stuff out and then addressing the trauma that came from the relationship itself. I wish I was more easy-going with flings and stuff but #CatholicGuilt probs lol

 

Thank god you got out of that relationship. I definitely understand how hard leaving those situations can be.

 

I know what I want in a partner. Sometimes I jump into things too quickly like I did with the last guy. Last guy seemed like he could be the right person, but was so not. I rushed into things too fast and I shouldn't have. I even think he was WAY more in to me than I was into him. My mind is boggled from all the things I find out about him and continue to find out.

 

Thanks! He still tries to call sometimes and I'm like sry boo ur blocked too busy living life while ur prob in jail for violating ur probation!!!

 

One seven year relationship and one that lasted for a year that ended in December. Not much interested in anything but relationships. But I also have zero interest in dating. So we'll see how this goes haha

 

Haven't been in any serious relationships since the night Obama was first elected, and I love it.

There was a period after the break up where I felt lost, empty, and aimless. No more. Watching what other people put up with in order to maintain relationships over the years has given me a very clear picture of my shortcomings, and what I need a potential lady to provide me with.....while also illustrating how not to maintain a relationship....I know that emotions often override knowledge though.

 

Your recent breakup is because your moving or was that someone else.

 

I don't have time to date around. I'm super busy with my current job that I hardly even have time for myself. It would be nice to find someone who's maybe just as busy who will understand. Last guy (the one I mentioned before) wasn't understanding and maybe that's why he'd get fussy if I didn't text him one day. It got to the point at work where I became really tired all the time (still am), but if I didn't spend time with him he assumed he did something wrong and I was lying about being tired.

I've thought about rejoining a dating site but I don't nearly have as much free time as I did when I use to be on them. Most dudes dont understand that some people work so much and odd hours that they really don't have much time. Then those guys get whiny and idk if I want to deal with it.

 

You are correct, ma'am.