(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 354

Oh okay.

 

You move on by doing things that make you happy, distract you from the pain, and if you do need to hurt for awhile - let it do so and bleed out. Go out with friends, meet new people, find new music, go to shows, see movies, look into things you were interested in but never go to. Plenty of things to occupy that healing time. Everyone who's been alive and dated has been hurt or disappointed before, it's not impossible.. just sucks.
To be fair even outside the age thing there seemed to be plenty of blockades. Some people are meant to just come in your life and revive faith in the fact you can find someone "like you" even if they themselves aren't it.. Seems your High School honey was that.

 

I'm 24 my gf is 20 (almost 21) and the age thing is never noticeable besides like, a few pop culture references here and there she doesn't get because it's from before her time. Other than that, we're totally on the same page with everything

 

My girl is totally on the same page with me with references and all that. A lot of the "issues" we ran into isn't even so much AGE as it was like.... you have these issues (her with abandonment cus she never knew her dad) and I have these issues (me with mental health shit) and we needed to sort our shit out. The things that touches, and the behavior it influences.

 

You're basically in the same stage of life. So that makes perfect sense.

Where a 27 and 18 yr old, beyond the age gap, is vast differences in their stage of life and things they have gone through. Not that it can't be fun, but it's just not wise or likely to workout.

 

My ex was 18 when she broke up with me, I'm 24. She's 19 now and apparently she's fucking a 35 year old so that's cool . It's seems illogical to have allowed myself to fall in love with an 18 year old but while I was in it it honestly felt like the most mature relationship I had ever been in, but alas...

 

Just depends on the person. I felt like there was an age gap when i went on a coupla dates with a 21 year old, haha.

 

My parents were 6 (& a quarter) years apart (met in their 20s, her 21 him 27 going on 28). I never thought much of that, but especially in your late teens-20s theres a lot to be said for differences in maturity, stages in life, etc.

 

The first person I decided to meet off tinder after my engagement broke off was an 18 year old college student. The sex was the best I've ever had, but everything else outside of that was riddled with problems that I felt were exacerbated because of the age difference and being at different points in our lives and personal development

 

I'm 3 years older than my girlfriend, but I'm 29 and she's 26 so it's not that huge. It was bigger back when I was 22 and she was 19 though, I'll tell you that.

 

It's not just that you can't do it, it's that you shouldn't do it. Not just because of the age gap, but also because she's already in a relationship. Be respectful of that. It's not something that should rule your life. Your life and happiness should depend on your overall well-being, not whether you're in a relationship or not.

 

I mean yeah I'm just speaking on my own relationship I can't speak for anybody else

 

That's hard for me to see because I've never dated before. I don't know what it's like to be in a relationship.

 

And you aren't right now either so I'm not sure why you're speaking like you're losing something you don't have? I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but still

 

Trust me, that shouldn't matter. I liked a lot of guys before I was in my first relationship. I got over them eventually. I know this doesn't sound like much, but as with many things, it takes time and patience.

 

I dated a guy one year younger than me in high school and his mom hated me. I turned 18 while he was 17 and I thought his mom would say it was statutory rape. She is that evil.

 

Mostly dated girls younger than me, no more than a year or two though. At my age (21) plus or minus a couple years really doesn't mean much. I mean I've met 30 year old women who act like high schoolers and I've met 19 year olds who are very mature for their age. I wouldn't date a high schooler though -- just can't see a real connection occurring there.

 

I'm dating a girl 8 years my junior. I'm 29. It's odd when she's talking about going to class, doing homework, checking instagram, and the amount of love for Drake, Rihanna, and Beyonce blows my mind. It has been going on for over a month and I'm definitely ready to date older. I find myself parenting because I've done it all before--that's weird. 26 is about right.

 

this is literally the same situation im in, I'm/we were just a lil younger than you atm, and older than which you mentioned originally. lol

 

I think I'd go 1 or 2 years younger and 10 years older would be my max.

 

Always was within a year for me just out of coincidence. I'm at that shitty age now though.

 

So I guess the next year is really going to suck.

I have to work alone with her so much until she goes to college in late summer.

Then say goodbye which will really suck.

"Why did we ever meet"

 

God I'm sorry I'm just going to say it and it's harsh but it needs to be said- you're coming off creepy and girls like her should be warned about guys like you. What the heck do you, an almost 30 year old, have to relate to a high schooler about?? Like legitimately. I'm sorry, but like Kiana touched on, most of us have been this girl before and now that we are older see how utterly problematic guys like that are. Don't be that guy. Find someone you can relate to who is in the same season of life.

 

I wish I knew what I did to make people like me tbh lol. I'm a chronic friend dater admittedly and (this isn't really relevant now since I'm engaged, but I met her the same way) every so often my female friends will allude to "I would if you were single" or etc and I'm just like "Wtf am I doing right so I know to accentuate this????" lmao
I just try and be nice and respectful and not be out here throwing innuendos and rude shit/expectations out at them? lol

 

umm you just answered your own question. lol

edit I meant because sadly that's rare so yeah