Mental Health Thread • Page 469

I got shingles during law school. I guess I was just super stressed but had no idea what it was. I just got this painful rash on my neck and face and went to the dr and they were asking me about chicken pox. But yeah I’ve been kind of dreading it coming back ever since

 

Yeah, they asked me if I’d had chicken pox as a kid. My mom had purposely exposed my sisters and I to the chicken pox as kids so that we’d get it and then build immunity since that’s just what you did back then. The repercussions of that sure do suck gotta say.

 

I'm 33 and have had shingles twice, once in high school and once a few years ago. Both times, it was confined to a small spot on my lower back and came with no physical pain, just tiredness and some slight flu like symptoms. It was honestly more good than bad for me cause I got a week off of school/ work and really didnt feel that bad. Its an odd thing.

 

not okay. thinking everyone is better off without me. tried taking a little break from the website to see if my mental health improved at all and it got worse because I have no real genuine connections in my life outside of here. nobody to share anything I’m doing or working on with. and I didn’t want to make a post about it and people still took the time to post about me “taking another dramatic posting break” like I’m not a real person with real shit going on. like I said maybe everyone’s better off with me gone. sure seems that way lately.

 

Man, I was legitimately wondering about where you’ve been in the politics thread lately and I can’t say I blame you for taking a break from all of it. I’m sorry you still get attacked like that from people on here or elsewhere. For what it’s worth, I know I’m not alone in valuing the things you post and have to say. I wish there was more I could offer than what feels like platitudes, but please take care of yourself as best as you can. I know we don’t know each other but if there is ever anything I can do to help I am here. I’ve just watched how far you’ve come and I know I don’t know everything going on in your life at all times, but the positive things have been truly inspiring in light of what you’ve been through and I and many others here, I know it, are proud of you.

 

I’ve been in a deep depression the past few days and I can’t shake it. The timing is terrible too as my parents came to visit this weekend. So just trying to be normal around them has been exhausting.

 

Ugh I hate that I even wrote that. I don’t know how much more time I’ll have with them, so I feel even worse that I am not cherishing their visit. I hate my brain.

 

Can anyone help me with actual techniques or practices to not take things personally?

I'm too old to let the throwaway comments people say get to me, but they do. I wish it wasn't that way and I wish I had the confidence for it to be water off a ducks back, but I don't. I genuinely don't make comments or neg anyone at all, I don't think that's a nice way to be, even if I have my views about certain people I always keep them to myself.

What joy do people get from saying snide, mean or not nice shit? I don't understand it.

 

thanks for being one of like three people who actually give a fuck. it’s just wild to me someone would say shit like that while I’m trying to mind my own business and going through a legitimate mental health crisis IRL. just goes to show what I’ve been saying for years, the culture on this website is not safe or inviting for people with mental illness. of course the post got likes and some other shit about me was said that isn’t even true like I apparently accused someone of cheating in a pokemon league I never even participated in? Idfk man I’m actually done

 

Hi @sophos34 i would like this thread to know that I was the person you’re referring to that asked about you taking a dramatic posting break.

I would also like to be clear that my feelings toward you are not a representation of this site not being safe or inviting to people with mental health struggles. I think we (this thread specifically) try to be very accommodating and thoughtful and helpful when possible when someone posts about their struggles.

Several months ago you were throwing a fit and told me to “suck my dick bitch” which you have not apologized to me directly for. I have had you blocked for the majority of the time since then but was told about this post by someone else.

 

I’m not sure where this quote came from but I always think of it: “mental health is not your fault but it is your responsibility”

 

I wanna clarify (because I'm in the thread this happened in) that this is a totally different Jake accusing me and one other person of cheating, you're not involved in that at all so I hope that doesn't contribute to any unsafe feeling (or that explaining that can help clear the air). It's about something where I know who the person is and wouldn't tell anyone it was you for any reason, that'd be ridiculous of me

 

I do think that people try but I do think it's hard to feel safe anywhere publicly online at the end of the day. There's a lot I don't feel safe sharing in here for various reasons and it sucks. But yeah I do think everyone tries to make it as safe as possible, it's just various different boundaries I guess

But yeah there's been a lot of times where I've wanted to post in here and have held back just because I don't feel comfortable or safe

 

The first thing I would say is, if there's ever anything I can do to help keep this thread as accessible and comfortable as possible, please don't hesitate to reach out (especially privately) and I would be happy to take suggestions and work with you to improve the way our community feels. I do think this thread is generally (and ironically) one of the more positive threads on the site, but I completely understand that that doesn't always mean folks will feel comfortable posting anything and everything they may want to talk about in here.

The second thing I would say is that in order to keep this thread as neutral and comfortable as possible, it's probably a good idea to keep personal issues with other users out of it. I know that can be difficult if the site is contributing to your mental health struggles (almost positive I'm guilty of complaining about the site in here before), but when it comes to specific users, it's probably best to either handle it one on one, with a mod in a private conversation, or to simply ignore each other. I am familiar with the situation Josh is referencing, I have spoken to both Jake and Jason about it, and while I was under the impression that it had been resolved (apparently that is not the case), I don't think we're going to make anyone feel more comfortable or be successful if we try to publicly solve it in here.

 

I rarely understand what’s going on with drama on this site, I just hope everyone doesn’t let anything said here get to them too much.
Since I posted over the weekend I’ll just say I think I’m on my way out of my depression for now, feeling much better today.

 

I don’t follow the drama on this site either, and it’s a bummer that it negatively impacts some users so much. I agree this thread isn’t the right place to discuss it though.

I’m actually doing pretty well! Still tired all the time but my moods overall better. And the new job has been going fairly well. I led my first group of students solo last week and it went better than I expected and I got positive feedback from the chaperones!

 

Between all of the housework we're doing to get ready for the baby, work, and the Horror Fest this week, I'm feeling really overwhelmed. Pretty much had stress dreams all night last night, including one where my wife passed away and I woke up in a panic. I'm excited for the Fest, but even more excited to have one less big thing on my plate.

 

SAD is kicking my ass and it's not even October lmao.

 

Been biking to work and it’s helping a lot to boost the mood.

 

Shoot, having a bad mental health day. The news is really impacting me more than usual today, having trouble calming down. I just need to calm down, I can’t get this angry about things I don’t have control over.

 

Marriage is hard, but it is worth it.

Some days you're in love with the person, some days you love the person.

 

I find when I'm angry as fuck, deep slow exhales help to slow it all down. Hope things get better for you.

 

I've been on a wild emotional roller coaster lately, where the low point ended with me writing down all my emails and passwords down "just in case." I was, and still am, rolling around with *the* ideation, but reasoned that I've always meant to have that stuff written down in a box of important paperwork. It is just a little disturbing what triggered me to actually do it. I've reached a point in my unreasonably long struggle with unemployment that I can't imagine my life moving forward. Some days I'm optimistic, some days I feel like I'm going crazy.

 

Thanks. After the day finally wound down I was able to do some breathing exercises and feel under control. Sometimes it’s hard to know when it’s reasonable to feel angry and when it’s out of hand. When I couldn’t stop fuming during my kid’s hour long gymnastics practice the line was pretty obvious

 

Work just gave us a premium subscription to Calm and it comes with 5 free “family” codes. I have 4 available if anyone wants one just DM me I’ll just need an email.

I use it most nights for the sleep story to help fall asleep and not stare at my phone and the sleep meditations work too when I’m anxious before bed. I’ve had much better sleep since using it so highly recommend for anyone with anxiety or trouble falling asleep at night.

it also has things like guided meditations and relaxing sounds or white noise for work or studying