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that said I just became a first time uncle and I’m probably good on having kids at least for a long long long long fucking time because while I like kids I’m close enough with my family that my siblings kids will be very close with me (I don’t think my sister and her fiancé want kids tho) so not having one of my own won’t leave some massive void in my life but also I’ve had so many fucking issues in my adult life that I’m not only really afraid of passing onto a kid but if I ever relapsed with a kid in the picture I legitimately don’t know if I would ever forgive myself I’ve barely forgiven myself as it is

 

Milo has this fun habit of being so incredibly well behaved in public than going demon mode at home. Which I guess is technically is the preferable option but man it’s like wtf did I ever do to you lol

 

Nah if they’re misbehaving it’s one thing, definitely wouldn’t fault a parent for that, it happens. It’s the people who leave their kid completely unattended and they’re causing utter destruction and the parent is nowhere to be found lol

 

I totally forgot that shitbag Debbie wasserman schulz existed. Not surprised this is how I’m reminded of her and her stupid poodle haircut

 

When kids block the bottom of the slide or go up the slide when other kids are trying to go down it and we’re all looking at the parent like hey can you tell your kid to wait his turn, and then when the parent doesn’t even make eye contact so I go over and tell him to please let the other kids have a turn and the parent tells me hey I can talk to me son myself, those are the kids and parents that suck. Didn’t just happen to me yesterday or anything.

 

I want kids but I'm realistic about the fact that I can't afford them and am not mentally healthy enough to be as good a parent as I should be.

Definitely crossing my fingers that my sister does though haha I would love to be an uncle

 

Just got done spending a couple of days visiting my year old nephew. Can confirm being an uncle is a lot of fun but talking with my brother and his wife being an actual parent seems like too much

 

I have two kids and I’m still anti-kid.

 

They just can't not put their foot in their mouths

 

Being a parent is a 24/7 thankless job

 

I don't have strong feelings on kids really I would only have them if my partner really wanted them and also we were loaded

 

I’m an uncle to a 2.5 year old and while I love seeing him a few times a year, I can’t imagine being a 24/7 parent. It’s just not for me. My gf and I established early on that kids aren’t for us. She loves kids, since she’s a pre school teacher. But she gets her kid fix at work and is able to come home and relax.

 

We took our kid to get tested for gifted and talented and they assumed that he knew how to work an iPad and when my wife told them he’s never used one*, they were all like oh that’s so good! That’s awesome! Lol

*=he has used a kindle to watch movies when we’ve been on long car trips. But we refuse to give him a personal screen any other time. TV at home is more than enough screen, and less zombifying

 

Oh and yes that is a big pain in the ass sometimes. But he’s overall a good kid and listens, so generally the biggest problem we have is he’s a chatterbox 4 year old who asks a ton of questions and says a lot of shit lol

 

Being a parent 24/7 honestly isn’t as bad as it seems, but I imagine it could depend on how hard your your job is. There are times where we feel like we’re failing him by putting on a movie or having a house that looks like a pig sty because during the school year it’s just tough to have the energy to do stuff. But we still find ways to enrich his life with experiences and learning and of course we’re home all summer with him and do a bit more with him there. But between school and camp and then early bed times, the truth is you’re probably spending, what, 6ish waking hours of the day? They’re at hectic and relentless, but if you’re getting your kid to bed at 8 PM, you can still have evenings to yourself (again, depending on your job hah). We truly don’t get too much of an evening since we gotta go to bed early and wake up early to perform in front of 80 teenagers every day.

 

Everything said after this sounds like my personal hell.

 

it ain’t bad. The feelings of “am I doing this good enough” get immediately snuffed out when they hug you or tell you they love you or ask to cuddle or sit on your lap or etc. Most of it is parents projecting their own insecurities/worries onto the kid, meanwhile the kid is fine and doesn’t notice whatever you think is terrible about your parenting lol

the hectic hours are hectic but also fun. Tonight he brougt out a drawstring bag full of ball pit balls from his room and I asked him to please not bring those out to the living room and create more of a mess and he said “this is my bag full of core memories” since Inside Out is a favorite movie of his. Then later after dinner he came downstairs and asked to play Super Mario on my NES I hooked up for him. Hectic but fun!

 

when will he start posting tho?

 

I’ve already got him into Blink so soon haha

 

The jokes fucking write themselves