Vent Your Frustrations • Page 27

I need to do self care but most of my self care involves spending money. Plus I've been spending money and it doesn't make me feel better anyway. There are just things that are stressful and hard lately and my usual outlets aren't working, or if they do the effect is shorter than usual. Despite my whiny nature I'm usually actually annoyed very rarely, and lately it's like an everyday all day thing.

 

I relate to this on a deep level.

 

I got a stange one living in the apartment downstairs from my gf and I. Dudes got super hearing and can hear every little thing we do and then complains. First it was a note to not listen to the tv so loudly after 10:30. Which is fine, I can absolutely respect that. Might have been too loud one night listening to music. Then a few weeks later he knocks on the door while my gf was watching tv and asked her to turn it down. I was in the room 10 feet away and could barely hear the tv going. Now this past week we get a note again asking us to answer our morning alarms quicker. In his words he hears "repetitive computer sounds" coming from our apartment in the morning. Mind you my gf wakes up around 8-9am. This kids getting out of control. We're basically on "quiet time" for 12 hours of the day with him.

 

What do you do for self care? There's lots of things you can do on the cheap. Bubble baths, face masks, finding time to just enjoy a book you've been wanting to read from the library. Also check Groupon for fun things that aren't crazy expensive.

 

Coloring, reading, painting arenother things to do for self care. It works for me anyway lol

 

FUCK UNCOATED PILLS HOLY SHIT

Current frustration is the godawful taste in my mouth that coffee isn't even washing away. SO GROSS.

 

Also, I think my new form of self care is to play with makeup. I've changed lip colors like four times today and I'm loving every minute of it.

 

I've been interviewing/applying to jobs for 4 months now and still haven't gotten an offer. My current company is straight up sucking my soul and I feel so stuck. I know it will get better eventually, this too shall pass, etc etc but it's really getting difficult to keep my head up. Doesn't help that my boss sucks and I don't even have any coworkers to chat with. Shit's discouraging.

 

I like to do my makeup. I think focusing on it chills me out, but it's hard for me to get up in the morning to do it when it's still dark out when I wake up. Downside to fall weather! I took baths last year and it's ok but I get restless easily so it's def a rarity for me. I already do weekly face masks!

Tbh mostly I watch netflix or zone out online. Being a hermit soothes me. I think that's why I'm cranky cause I've had a rando in my house for a month and it doesn't feel like home lately.

 

I'm feeling really hollow. Like I need something to feel fulfilled but I don't know what that is.

I also feel unmotivated to workout because I just feel bummed.

 

I know the feeling well unfortunately

 

I get it completely, I have my first secure job in over 8 years, and the feeling is indescribable. I owe it mostly to revamping my resume to a non traditional form (use stories not bulleted lists) and spent a LOT of time rehearsing and thinking about how I interview. I interviewed with at least a dozen companies, consistently made final rounds, but always ended up having someond slightly more qualified get hired ahead of me. I found a lady on LinkedIn named Liz Ryan, and her stance on all this will give you a lot of confidence for questions that are uncomfortable, like current salary, etc. Here's a link to my favorite advice she's published. Best of luck to you, you're lucky to have a job while job hunting, I was unemployed for most of my search which was close to 6 months. You'll get there!

 

Everything is hollow nowadays, for many reasons that are too hard for me to explain properly atm. But I feel the secret to getting over this feeling is to first be grateful for what you have. I recently moved out into my own place & I thought that would be the catalyst for everything in my life to fall into place - It wasn't. On either the first or 2nd night I was so stressed/depressed about it I cried my fucking eyes out. But then I stumbled upon something that told me to be grateful for what I DO have in life - even if it's small things like a comfortable pair of fucking boxers or something (which was legit one of mine ) - instead of focusing on what I don't have (& the negativity that comes with that).

Now I'm on the right track, and I'm pretty sure you will be too.

P.S. Working out is sick & we all know it; the motivation will return!

P.P.S. Unlock the Pale Sulking White Boy Thread!!!

 

I can't deal with emotionally needy ppl rn. I get that some ppl are more emotional and that's fine, but as someone who isn't, I'm easily exhausted by it. Like we have a positive affirmations board in the hall for ppl to write messages on when a coworker does something cool/nice and someone was whining cause they weren't on it and throwing a pity party over it. Only a few ppl are on it! It's not like everyone is on it but them. Nobody is on it!! Nobody looks at that board! I don't say anything cause idk the week that person is having or what they're dealing with, but it's hard for me to be around sometimes. It makes me sound like a bitch but idk. It's not their fault and they've done nothing wrong but it's hard.

Prob cause I'm emotionally stunted lol

 

Today is also a losing battle.

 

Same. I recently started doing a diary where I write down everything I do in a day and my fuck has it been depressing how little I do. I exist, I do not live...

 

I have a huge frustration with management at my job. Work conditions today were highly unacceptable and unsafe. Probably not even legal. I don't think they even cared. I'm very strongly considering updating my resume and look for a new job. I can't stay here if what's going on is going to continue. I like what I do and wanted to stay a few months longer but not if the bull shit that's happening, had happened, and what hasn't happened yet.

 

I have a friend/coworker staying the night for convenience reasons. Ok fine. I still have the randos (plural now!) staying here and while I'm not going out of my way to be super quiet like I was before, I'm not gonna be passive aggressive and be loud and obnoxious either. In fact I'd rather be reasonable so if I blow up one day about them being loud or something I'll have the high ground lmao, which I guess is passive aggressive too. Anyway, me and coworker are watching TV and I'm trying to talk a bit lower cause randos are in their room and idk if they're trying to sleep. Coworker knows they're in the room and is basically yell talking. I decide to go bed partly cause I'm tired partly to be respectful to randos since TV is kinda loud and my coworker is being loud. I go to my room. Coworker is on the couch and turns on her laptop and it is BLASTING. Like I legit sprang up in my bed like wtf is that???? She lowered it but I could still hear. I asked her to lower it more and she did but I can still hear.


I'm just irritated. I'm tired of people in my house. I enjoy my coworker/friend and I am indifferent to the randos as people, but I want my house back! And now I feel annoyed by the randos but also guilty for my friend being so loud and that frustrates me lol

 

If my roommate could quit loudly watching anime/TV/Youtube with the sound on with no headphones while I'm trying to listen to music (with headphones, mind you) that would be phenomenal.

 

Just got back from hanging out with some friends at our local bar.

There was a guy there tonight, originally from my town, but doesn't live here anymore. He had burned his thumb earlier and the manager went to get him some burn cream. When the manager came back (he's a buddy of mine, was in my wedding) said "oh she's the EMT let her look".....Guy came back with "she's just a volunteer".

Listen buddy, I'm a volunteer EMT. Yes, that is correct. But I take the EXACT same exam that a paid EMT does. I do this out of the kindness of my heart because my family, his family, my neighbors, etc NEED people like me (and my husband, our friends). The closest ambulance if my department didn't exist is 20 minutes away.

My restraint was incredible. I worked my ass off to be able to do what I do, and I'm insanely proud to be a "just a volunteer" EMT.

 

I don't get people like that. My college rm used to do that. She'd constantly blast music every minute she was home, like early in the morning when she knew I didn't have to be up yet. Then one day she mentioned her headphones and I was like ...YOU HAVE HEADPHONES???? USE THEM!!!

Would it be passive aggressive for you to get them headphones as a gift lol

 

That would potentially solve a problem, but I don't wanna start beef, ahaha. I'm too passive.

 

Looked at my paystubs from my job and I was not paid overtime for working holiday. wtf. Now I have to call corporate. This makes me wonder if my time punches are being tampered with when I'm forced to stay past my shift.

 

Ugh, more neighbors with kids moved in today. I swear everyone that has moved into this building the last two years has at least two kids under the age of 5. Used to be so peaceful here.

I think they generally move out pretty quickly so I think they rent for a bit before getting a house set up, but you can do that at other apartment complexes for much less. I pay $800 a month for quiet time, not to listen to your little shits running amok in the hallway 24/7.

 

Hard to find places to live that doesn't have screaming noisy children imo. I also hate it how upstairs neighbors with small kids let their kids make bunch of noise like there's no one living below them. When I was a kid, I would get scolded for making noise because it bothers the people below.