Mental Health Thread • Page 299

I wish I even remotely enjoyed this time of year.

 

I feel you on this tbh. I am having an incredibly hard time getting over a breakup which occurred a little over a year ago, but I've also resigned myself to the idea that she is someone I will likely continue to think about and feel fondly about even in the future whenever I choose to enter a relationship again. Like you said, not in a "longing for them" sort of way, but rather appreciating what they were for me in that point in time. Idk, you're not alone on this.

 

I dislike my brain so much!!! I found out I may have had undiagnosed ADHD all my life and I have an appointment to get evaluated on Friday but in the mean time I have homework to do and it's just not working. I try so hard to focus but I cannot!! I'm not dumb or lazy, I get good grades and feedback when I turn in work and I WANT to do things so badly it's just so hard sometimes. I have no idea how my friend lived with this untreated ADHD in grad school (she only got diagnosed this year as well)

 

Realized today after all this time I kind of actively dislike this season. It’s stressful, depressing, and emotionally draining for me. Oh well, what can you do?

 

I'm doing "okay". Just a little melancholy. I don't really do much for Christmas, so I'm still online all the time while folks seem to disappear for a few days to a week and I get super alone. I mean, I have my hubby, but he's doing his thing right now. Whatever! I'm just kinda bored.

 

I think this will be the first year I don’t have a breakdown on New Years, here’s to hoping :)

 

Yay

 

I love my mother's family but there are always so many people at my aunt's house that I get sensory overload from all the noise and I also get kind of depressed comparing myself to my successful cousins, who I love and am proud of and who probably don't even look down on me at all so I shouldn't compare myself to them but it's hard not to.

I also struggle with feeling like I didn't do enough to prepare or enjoy the holiday season? And I think seasonal depression is a factor as well. So anyway yeah, I totally feel you all who are struggling right now.

 

I’m overwhelmed and angry and depressed and I can’t wait for Christmas to be over. This is my only safe space right now

 

Sorry to hear it. But just a couple more days and we’ll be through it!

then back to normal depression

 

im spending christmas with my wife as far away as possible from everyone for the 1st time, and honestly i feel a sense of relief

i feel some pressure every holiday but not this time so it’s nice

 

yeah we joke a lot about Dan in the other threads but seriously mad props to him. he was very helpful when i moved to the US and always appreciated that

also not sure if it would cheer anyone up, but the new John Mulaney on Netflix is really optimistic and a sigh of relief.

 

sorry things are hard right now. message me if you ever need someone to talk/vent to

 

If you want calming music for the mind, check out Tony Anderson

 

I hate my stupid fucking brain and want to slam dunk it into the trash

 

I feel terrible today. Had a hard night having to be apart from my gf but have her texting me about how awful her family was being. Her brother won't meet me because well first and foremost they're homophobes, his gf was at the house visiting with him but I am not allowed over there. But second of all he said he doesn't approve of the person she is, how she dresses, her life choices, etc. and it's so painful to watch someone become truer to themselves and happier but have the people who should support them the most invalidating it and making her feel bad for it.

I know I have an issue where I let people's issues become my own, but it's hard to separate myself out from this since in some way I've been a catalyst to a lot of the abuse they've hurled at her recently. Fucking sucks.

 

(for both you and Hannah)

That's so incredibly shitty to her. At least she'll be moving in with you in like a couple weeks, right? Maybe she can just put on headphones and tune those stupid fucking shitty assholes out. Wish I could just go over there and just like casually stand over the brother and be like wtf is your problem and just be causally threatening with my height.

 

Thanks Shak :)

She does put headphones in, her mother just stands in her doorway refusing to allow her to leave and just keeps yelling at her. It's awful.

Yes 16 days, we really can't wait. Thanks as always for the support

 

Every New Years I listen to this song and it’s become really important to me over time, particularly the section I’ll post below. Thought I’d share at the end of another long year. Thank you all for being here and I hope you’re well. If not, I hope someone comes along in your life to tell you you’re not alone. Happy New year, everyone. May there be peace.

“It’s 12 past 3
time to shut those thoughts down
turn the pillow
crawl over

But the passing time
is on your mind
because the clock in your heart
is stuck in yesterday

And you’re busy
dreaming
holding
breathing
scheming
remembering
Sure you’re insecure

And it’s on your mind
that you’re fighting time
from those cracks you cannot hide

So
it’s all been forgiven
just as you feared
Can you
take what you’ve been given
That it’s never
too late.”

 

I have an appointment with my therapist this morning for the first time in nine months, and my anxiety is through the roof right now. My brain is doing the “you’re fine, you don’t need to go; you’re just stressed out right now but things will get better on their own” thing.

 

Question for the room - I'm curious about a situation with my gf. She is legally an adult, hasn't signed any HIPAA forms and yet her therapist takes calls from her mother and listens to her feed bullshit into his ear, and then uses that information to come at her during sessions. Her mother lies and twists the situation to seem like it's Hannah being crazy or depressed and tells her therapist that anything she says is going to be distorted, that her "version" of events is irrational. This seems extremely inappropriate and crossing lines into violations but I don't actually know if that's true and was wondering if anybody knows more about anything she can do. I told her she needs to switch therapists completely but I know she also wants somebody stable and who knows her to help her transition as we move in together and she unties herself from her family.

 

I'm no expert, but I feel like it might technically be legal because her mom is is providing information, but the therapist isn't disclosing anything from their sessions. That being said, it still feels extremely inappropriate and messed up, and I agree that she should probably find someone new. Especially if she has asked the therapist to stop

 

this seems pretty fucked up and not super helpful for the patient, so I'm not sure why they even entertain her parents, even if they pay. Seems to cross a bunch of lines and I can't imagine feeling safe confiding in this therapist, even if all he does is listen to what the mother says and not reveal anything.

 

At least over here once somebody is 14 or older there has to be releases signed to talk with the patient. Otherwise they won't even confirm that patient is being seen at that facility. Talking to them seems not okay to me. But I don't work in the mental health field, just sort of adjacent