(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 1190

Haha noooo I was not lusting!! like he was cute but he wasn't Keanu reeves to lust after or anything! I will accept moderately interested from afar

 

Is Keanu Reeves a known 10/10????

 

I got the mysterious one too but now that I know the hopeless romantic is one I feel miscategorized

 

Yeah. On a scale of Steve Buscemi to Keanu reeves this guy is like a Josh Hutcherson maybe??

 

You got: The Best Friend

"You're someone who is always there for those around you. You often put others' needs before your own and hope they will someday return the favor. In terms of love, you're likely hung up on one of your long-time BFFs in hopes it will turn into something more."

I don't know how I feel about this...

 

That's what I got too

 

I should be hopeless romantic

 

Update : this time I caught Josh Hutcherson staring but maybe he was spacing off like me idk literally doesn't matter cause I won't see him like again in my life

 

Unless you step up and go talk to him!!

 

Fantastic! Hopefully it goes well also. When the conversation is good it just means everything is a whole lot easier.

 

We did once and I picked up mixed signals! Like he didn't rly stick around to chat which I feel like u would do if u were interested but he also made a comment that showed remembering a specific awareness of me so idk but I'm not super inclined towards interested

 

Sounds like something I would do because I'm oblivious tbh

 

Lol yeah I guess me too, but he had more opportunity to talk longer and kinda dipped out and was just like see ya. which could be awkwardness or shyness but idk it wasn't a circumstance where you'd be seen as weird or creepy for continuing a conversation but he just bailed sooner than he had to and it instilled doubt!

 

why would she do that

 

THANK YOU

 

I got The Professional

"You're someone who puts your career and aspirations above all else. You're striving to be the very best version of yourself. You don't take shit from anyone, and you're likely to find love in the most unexpected places."

that's false

 

also clearly I'm the sassy best friend like John Krasinski in Something Borrowed that she eventually realizes is the guy she belongs with after years of me telling how every guy is a jerk and me being like yeah they are

 

I already know I'm the uptight stick in the mud who needs someone to get me to ~open up and spread my wings. We'll probably be enemies at first because we're so different but then we realize we have more in common than we realized as we both slowly get to know each other.

But idk I obv haven't really thought about it or anything

 

You got a wild scale girl I like it. Everyone prolly does

 

Dating is stupid. People think too much and its no fun. I'm just trying to live my life and be cute with my best friend who I just so happen to fuck on the reg.

 

I've seen this movie on lifetime

 

Also I was like falling in love every 5 minutes in Berkeley, I want to live in the bay solely for how great those dating apps would be.

and the 18th year old coworker is like a little into me and I'm like Nkoooooo

 

So, I'm not really sure where to post this, but feel like i need to rant since it's a relationship type situation.

My wife and I have been married since 2015. We've known each other since 2012 and have dated since 2013. We're doing great. We have two kids, a dog, a house, blah blah blah. Her mom is VERY involved in our kids' lives and her and my wife are extremely close - as many mothers and daughters are.

She only lives about five minutes down the road, does not work and does not have any social life whatsoever. She babysits at the drop of a hat for us. ...if we want to go to dinner or go out or anything, she's a quick call away to come over. Honestly, I feel guilty about how much she's willing to babysit for us. Despite being close to my wife, she's not very talkative at all. She's great with our kids, but does not socialize well with other adults - even myself. She's the last of 11 kids, which is probably why she's so quiet. I'm much closer to my wife's aunts and uncles (one of them lives three doors down from us and another around the corner) - who are way more outgoing and sociable - than I am to her mom, despite seeing her 4-5 times a week. My wife's mom is also a HUGE worrier. Like, she's always freaking out that something bad will happen to our kids or my wife and is quite serious all the time and not really light hearted often. It's a strong contrast to me and my wife. My wife is the opposite, she has a strong personality, very outgoing, great sense of humor and can talk to anyone about anything, has a ton of friends, works, etc.

Here's where the rant part kicks in. I've NEVER met my wife's father OR brother. What's even more bizarre, my wife's mom still lives with them (but to my understanding - they're basically separated?). So I've never even been to the house my wife has grown up at (or at least, inside of the house). My wife's aunts, uncles and grandparents have get togethers and parties all of the time - holidays, summer cookouts, typical stuff - and not once in the past six years has any of the family members mentioned my wife's dad or brother. No one even says anything like 'hey, how's Tom and Travis doing?' or 'where's Tom or Travis?'

My wife doesn't like talking about it but every now and then - maybe 2 or 3 times a year - the situation really stresses her out. Like, last night, my wife randomly drove to her mom's house and she said the place was a mess, the stove was missing for some reason and there was garbage all over the floor. My wife asks her mom questions all the time about her dad and brother and what's going on at the house and how her brother needs professional help, but her mom gets mad and shuts down and they get in bad arguments. Then, when I try to talk to my wife about it, she just kind of shuts it down too. It's a very sensitive conversation and she's the type of person who'd rather just not talk about it (like her mom, apparently). She hasn't talked to her dad in like a decade and according to her, her brother has serious social issues where he apparently doesn't leave his room, doesn't talk much, has no friends, etc. He's not even online or any social media sites that I can find. I don't know anyone who knows him, despite being close to same age as us and from around the same area.

It's a very bizarre situation. And it's going to get more bizarre I feel, especially when my almost 4-year-old son (and eventually my 1-year-old daughter) starts realizing that I have two parents involved in his life and my wife only has one parent involved. He'll probably start wondering soon why he only has one 'papa' but two 'grandmas.' He also goes to my parents house all the time, but like me, has never been to my wife's mom's home.

I realize not all kids have both sets of grandparents around, but often times, the situation is easy to explain. I'm not opposed to ever meeting the father or the brother, in fact, I'd like to, but my wife has no interest in ever talking to her dad again and the way she talks about her brother is, that he wouldn't even be able talk to us or socialize in a normal capacity. Last night, she was freaking out that if anything ever happened to her mom, she'd all of a sudden have to take care of her brother - despite not seeing or talking to him in 6 or 7 years.

It's all just really strange and I don't really know how to handle this situation. Or if there is anything I can even do at all. I don't like to push the subject with my wife because I can tell it's a bothersome topic for her. Last night, she went upstairs and talked to her aunt on the phone for about 90 minutes and she came back downstairs and said she felt better.

I get that there are broken families everywhere, it's just really bizarre that they all still live together. Like, one of my best friends has a kid with his GF and he's never met her father, but they've been divorced and separated and living apart for years, so that's a little more understandable. My mom never had a relationship with her father until she was in her 30s or 40s, so I get that, but combined with not only living together, and no one in the family ever addressing it and her mom already being a very quiet, guarded individual, it's just really strange.

 

That’s tough man. I feel like you deserve to know.

 

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