(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 28

I'm somewhat confident in my looks. Although I have anxiety about my hair since I've been growing it out.

 

I don't really have a specific look I go for. A little of everything I suppose

 

Well this isnt technically my relationship but my parents are getting separated and im absolutely crushed about it. Not really sure what to think or do at the moment.

 

Man, that honestly really sucks. I can't really offer or say anything to really help you out but I feel for you right now, man. Hopefully things get better for your folks.

 

I feel you. Except I'm lacking in charm and basic social skills and like any know how on dating lol oh well! It seems stressful from ppl's comments on here so I'll deal

 

I think being a short dude with a dad bod holds me back the most.

 

short dad bods are great tho.

I have ~just entered my first relationship since like 2013, pretty much exactly three years to the day. last relationship fucked me up a bit so I didn't really want anything to happen. but now it has and honestly thought it would be weirder than this. bad thing is I'm planning to emigrate by the end of the year.

 

Going back to the phone thing, I think it's crazy some of you would get so mad. From the beginning my wife and I use each others equipment. If she has her phone and mines not next to me, I'll get on to Google something, etc. She looks at my Instagram feed, etc. I don't see any harm in it - sometimes it sparks conversation when she see's someone I follow post something and we talk about it. I'd actually feel weird if I banned her from going on my phone/computer.

 

That's an agreement you made, though. Some people do not like that sort of agreement.

On an unrelated note, what is terrible about living with one's ex is there is no way to have company over without it turning into a shit show. And no, I'm not talking about that type of company. Ha.

 

This is true, I supposed if there was a mutual respect for each others property, and you broke that - I could see why she'd be annoyed.


Is your house not big enough to hide upstairs or in the basement?

 

Basically, I have the upstairs bedroom and she has taken the living room and bedroom downstairs. In order to get to my room, I have to pass through the living room and by her bedroom, so there's no way around it. I had a friend come over the other night. It happened to be a woman. And I was texted repeatedly, and there was a lot of noise made, until I had to ask her to leave.

 

Using your SO's phone to google something while next to them or them scrolling through a social media account you have and they, presumably, follow, is different then blatantly just going through someone's conversations and unpublished pictures while the other person isn't in the room.

 

We have a kid and sometimes she will get on my phone to look at pictures because she knows I have some she's never seen - but like Dom pointed out, this is the norm so I'm not taken back by it.

 

Or that issue simply hasn't been properly addressed in the relationship, in which case it should be implied that you don't go through each other's shit w/o their consent

 

i swipe right everytime and only got one legit like back lol

 

bruh, change your picture

 

Send him one to use. Help the poor guy out.

 

You can use my avatar, I don't mind.

 

i generally just start with a "good (insert part of the day"", and i generally get a response like 60-70 percent of the time. i used to try and add something from whatever was in the bio, but they were not having it. haha

 

I had Tinder for about a week and didn't get any matches. But I was super selective about it and wasn't "swiping right" much. I saw two coworkers on there so that was funny haha

 

Yeah that's fair enough, it's just kinda where you go from there without it seeming like awful small talk haha, tbh it's probably just me thinking it's a lot more awkward than it actually is, god damn

 

I went through basically my entire 40 mile radius and only swiped right 6 or 7 times.

 

this is my issue with online dating - my city / surrounding area sucks. i imagine the mentality of some (maybe most?) attractive females is: i don't need online dating to help me meet people. sure, you find those that go to online dating as a "last resort", but it takes time to get there (aside from a younger generation that grew up with it and seemingly automatically have one "just for fun!" when they're 18 or 21, so finding someone I'm attracted to is almost impossible because it seems like only weirdos and cat ladies have an account in my city. which... isn't surprising. the gene pool here is extremely limited and has been for a long time. i remember so many conversations with friends, all of us curious about the lack of attractive females around our age in the city.

 

I think I should just dig a hole and live there

 

@iam1bearcat Yeah, only a handful seemed like they'd be my type. 21 seemed like it was too young so my search was 22-25 basically.

@ChaseTx I did that years ago and it's starting to suck haha.