(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 20

Not sure i know what you mean

 

Not you.

 

You deserve a lot better than someone who makes you feel like this.

 

I appreciate that. I really do. But I just like him so much and I can't help but wish for something to happen between us. He's not usually like this. I don't know why I keep making excuses for him.

 

This person seems abusive and it is likely that his disposition is the way in which he enters into most of his social relationships, i.e., emotionally manipulating people. Infatuation and guilt are the side effects of dealing with emotionally abusive people. It is more related to your sense of self-worth than an objective feeling you have towards this man.

 

I'm kind of in love with my coworker, but trying to date her could be a huge disaster if it went badly. I hate this.

 

I've tried talking to two girls now from online dating apps and I never have any idea wtf to talk about. I do much better in person but I feel like asking to grab a drink or some coffee is perceived as being too forward early on. I have no idea what I am doing

 

I saw a post that may be a way to get a guy to date me hahaha. I'll condition him to like me by using food.

 

I know what post you mean genius EH!

 

This is gonna sound kinda asshole-ish probably but, I'm having the issue where I'm lonely but I don't like anyone I meet. Hahaha. Either I don't want to socialize with them at all or I enjoy them to a point where I just wanna enjoy being friends with them and don't wanna risk ruining it by dating. It feels weird.

 

Well that conversation was interesting.

 

Don't feel bad, I know what you mean. I'd like to be someone but lately, I've come across a bunch of people that frankly I feel would not last in a relationship.

 

Wow. Please don't think I'm trying to be rude, but how tall are you if you're typically boob height? Or are you just into gigantic women?

Also, managing to work "All that boob right in my face" into a potential date conversation, without getting yourself in trouble, is pretty hilarious. :D

 

You just need to be able to either be kind of interestingly weird or ask some questions based on their interests and try to go on from there. That's my experience.

Also, asking someone if they want to meet for coffee fairly early on isn't so bad. If you can work in a sort of suggestive comment about it early on, that can help gauge interest.

For example, I nearly always get asked what I do. What I've started to do when I respond to that is to give the technical name and then when they have no idea what that means, I give a vague explanation and say I'd need to explain it in person, as it requires drawings and wild hand gestures. Both parties know exactly how unsubtle that is, but it doesn't seem to matter. The last person I tried that with asked me out, so, you never know. :)

I must admit, I wouldn't just come right out and say it within the first few messages, but I'm sure some people can make it work.

 

This is the post I saw. I think think this is the science behind how I can get a guy to date me.

 

Well she's 5'10 and I'm 5'7. So I think they just come into view depending on... cuppage I guess.

There's also no chance of a date.

 

I downloaded bumble the other day and I have never seen a more WASP-y dating app in my life. Every dude on here looks the same and they're all mortgage brokers, financial analysts, or engineers. I need someone to roll out a dating app where I can more easily connect with people who are interested in similar music/media that I am. An alt dating app, or what have you... Maybe Jason can branch out into the dating app world so people can fall in love over debating the merits of early Jimmy Eat World albums to their more current discography.

 

I just want a nice guy who loves and hates the same things as me. Is that too much to ask?!

 

It's not the best, but there is an app called Tastebuds. You can swipe and chat with people in your area and see what their music tastes are. Although I don't think it has a very active user base but may be worth checking out.

 

A person from a while back asked to see me yesterday. I had to decline. It important not to invite people into turmoil. In any case, the more time I spend by myself, the more I realize how easy it is to lose that need for space one had when they were previously unattached. It isn't as though we were inseparable, but love and affection has a way of dismantling those spaces you've carved out for spending time with yourself. Or, at least, the kind of love and affection that can be unhealthy functions that way.

 

Lol I'm so awkward. I see this cute guy at work sometimes but he works in a different office in a different city so I don't see him or know him much. I made an awkward comment I expected would come out more clever and witty and failed lmao and I feel like he kinda turned towards me to continue the convo or say something but I looked down and away like a weirdo so he just didn't say anything and moved on. I'm socially incompetent, send help

 

After working in that comment, I'm devastated you didn't get a date out of that.

I was on Tastebuds for a while in its earlier days. It was quite good in some ways but it's really dependent on where you live because the user base isn't all that big. Also, I'm not sure whether the arrival of Tinder really hammered it. They also did some very weird stuff in terms of what you had to pay for. Admittedly, all my experience of it is now a bit second hand, as I deleted my account in February last year. Maybe even further back.

 

Newer guy at my work cut his hair and shaved his face. I almost didn't recognize him and thought he was new hire. It was THAT much different. He didn't look bad before, but for some reason I really like the way he looks now more. I wanted to compliment him but didn't get a chance. Mabye another time. Maybe I'll try to flirt with him. Hahh

 

I'm right there with you. I often feel temptation to lead on/hang out with people I'm not into, but then if I do my disinterest is very apparent. Dating as an introvert and a dad is rough.

 

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