(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 521

Had a very weird version of the define the relationship conversation today where basically she asked if I'm seeing anyone else and then said I can as long as I don't get caught or anything

It was odd

 

Do you think it's because she might be doing the same? Seems strange to say that.

 

Nah, I think she just doesn't have confidence about the relationship. She already said she worries that I'm not as into her as she is into me, and when I talked to her today she said she's been in a lot of bad relationships

 

I once dated a girl who said she'd had 7 terrible relationships and all were with guys with the same name, which is also my name. But, I go by a nickname, so when she found out my legal name was the same as all the bad relationships she freaked out. I told her that the name thing was just a coincidence and no big deal. And then things went south real quick and I became #8. Kind of spooky I think.

And that girl should have stopped dating guys with that name after 2 or 3. No way you let that shit get to 7-8.

 

Very, very common. I'd imagine it's a top 10 standard suburban white guy born in the late 80's name. I've met hundreds of people with the same first name.

 

well i have been using them for years i only had meet 4 girls out of the 1000's i messaged

 

Is it Michael or David?

 

broke up with my ex a number of months back, but we had a lease together with some friends and I didn't feel like I was in the position to move out for a while, but I finally did today, and buddy did I feel some sort of way

 

That's me. Get any replies?

 

ya I did. none of it went anywhere lol.

 

Please tell me that number is actually A LOT lower and you're exaggerating.

 

He said he's been using them for years so multiple girls a day gets you to 1000+ a year so seems reasonable to me.

 

that's commitment

 

What exactly you want?????

First, let me tell you that I got out of a long relationship (6 years) oh crap.. single in my 30s..Panic mode activated!!! Where do I go from here? Will I ever have this "true-love-butterflies-in-my-stomach" type of relationship again? I was hittin the bars and clubs for like a year (was trying the real-life way) I met some nice ladies, had some "action" but nothing serious...till I got this special match (on Tinder).. maaaaaan.. that girl... She was (still is) something else... still sad things didn't work out with her

Moral of my short sappy story: Love comes from the most unexpected places.. Ofcourse use "real life way" but DO NOT give up on dating sites/apps.

 

i tried to break up with my boyfriend last night but lost my sense of indignation after about an hour of sad-fighting, i'm not sure where we left things. i feel like i need a pep talk.

 

How long have you been together and why do you want to break up?

 

We've been dating for about a year and a half now, but knew each other much longer than that. We actually met on a message board in 2004, as nerdy as that sounds.. He moved to my city last year so we could have a legit relationship.

I feel completely exhausted from performing emotional labor of trying to "fix" things, and I feel like we can't have a normal conversation anymore without it feeling forced. We're in couples therapy but I'm not any happier and we're not communicating any better. I laugh less now, and I'd often prefer to be alone. Also haven't had sex in like 3 months so :\

 

Looks like this is going nowhere..Taking a break seems like the best option here IMO Do you live together?

 

We don't live together...
I feel like "taking a break" is code for "i'm too much of a wuss to break up with you but this will make me feel less guilty about it" but maybe I'm wrong. Conceptually it's appealing but I don't know anyone that it's actually worked for in practice.

 

I was in a long relationship (6 years) and we took a break on 4th year, stayed apart for like 2 months and then we got back together for 2 more years.. so having a "break" is not always a bad thing..

 

I haven't heard of someone ask someone else for a "break" since high school.

 

so my girl had an interview Wednesday, got the job.
I had an interview today at the same place, looking good.

had a lot of head butting lately cus of the stress over no money and the strain of our setbacks with our living situation but things are looking up and I'm ready for it.



edit* she just said she likes Hot Dogs with only ketchup on em, we beefing again. lol

 

and you think working together is a good idea when there's lots of headbutting already? I could never actually work with my husband, one of us would be dead. Though, he's usually my EMT partner and that goes smoother than I ever imagined it would

 

We wouldn't be allowed to work same shifts and most likely days so that's not a concern. We're already always around each other cus we had to go from Maryland back (to NY) cus of financials. The headbutting was over the uncertainty of said financials and "whos doing more to fix it' vs. "how we got there in the first place" since we were long distance on and off for awhile and until we finally buckled down and made the jump to stop the "you come then I go, then you come," wash, rinse, repeat shit. Not to mention we're finessing the job to an extent just to make a few thousands bucks then be the fuck outta NY back to Maryland then start back up there as we been saying we would for months, and it was looking like I was gunna do in a month ago but we had some unexpected issues that threw us off course, came back to NY to regroup.
We're still very early in this making this finally pop stage so we're all in on it whatever it takes.