(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 413

Dishwater has to be HOT HOT HOT.
My gf and I also argue about sponges. I get paranoid and want to toss it after about 2-3 uses. She wants to make them last as long as possible. She's also the cheaper of us two, so there's that. But nothing beats a brand spanking new sponge.

 

I'm bad and do that.


Assuming drainer means sink

 

I've been bad about cleaning lately because it's been a few weeks since I've had anyone over. Need to fix that

 

Gotta find that balance. You're obsessive about cleaning the dishes? Sweet you're all over that. I'm insane about throwing out expired things in the fridge and keeping that clean? Sweet, that's my job now

 

She cooks, I do dishes. And I'm laundry and trash taker outer. She's awful about starting a load in the wash and forgetting to put them in the dryer, so I take care of that. And she does miscellaneous cleaning tasks around house like sweeping, bathrooms. I do yard work. A nice balance

 

my level cleanliness is directly proportional to my current level of depression

 

although even at as close to "0" depression as possible, im still kind of dirty. it just gets worse

 

You may as well lick your plates and place them back in the cupboard, you beast.

 

I'm usually very clean and kind of annoying about it but yeah with depression and stuff it's messier than I've ever let it get.

My deal breaker is finances. I cannot be with someone who is super reckless with money. I impulse buy and stuff, but I had an ex who impulse bought junk we didn't need regardless of how broke we were and it stressed me out so much. I've always been big on saving and staying within my means.

 

I am short term messy. I do dishes every morning, clean my room every three days, do the floors every five. But in between it's total anarchy.

 

I'm messy with some things, papers etc, but clean with laundry and towels and stuff

 

I think about becoming a monk sometimes because it means always having a clean home, can't have clutter if you don't actually have possessions.

 

I'm OCD with just about everything, I want the bed made every morning, clothes in the hamper or put away, no dirty dishes, etc. I'm fine with it, and doesn't bother me that I'm so clean (I think some people wish they could change), but now that I've been separated for a month because my wife thinks I "nag", I'm trying to get it under control so it doesn't hinder other people.

 

I know a couple who basically have a you and then someone who is terrible with money. My old colleague was the one who was sensible with money and his boyfriend was an absolute moron. Like, he was well in debt and so his boyfriend helped clear some of it, then helped consolidate the debts to one place and then drew up a plan for him to be able to pay it back.

The boyfriend at no point ever made an effort to stick to this. He'd go out from work at lunch time and just buy random shit. But then, to really compound it, he'd call my colleague up at work to tell him he was about to do it, which was basically just pre-ignition for a massive argument later.

His real coupe de grace though, was when the finance on his car was getting near its end and he decided he wanted a larger one (not that there was any justification for a larger one). Rather than looking at a second hand car, he was looking at getting another on an even bigger lease package.

I have no idea why my colleague has stuck with him, because it seems he has no intention of ever dealing with his own idiotic spending. I'd be gone as pretty rapidly if someone I was with was like that. I would be quite content to leave them to dig their own hole.

 

My biggest issue when i was living with an ex is that they would NEVER put our clothes in the dryer after they were done in the washer when she would do laundry. they would sit there for a day or two before I would realize my work shirts are in there and i'd be late to work because of it. Laundry was her designated chore and dishes were mine. I ended up doing 90% of the cleaning and it was infuriating.

 

I'm a dork.
I found a woman, 9 years my senior, about 5 years ago. She has 3 kids. Dads aren't really around. Etc.
We've since moved in together and now we're getting married in April.
Why?
Because I found a woman, a family, that give me the electricity in my veins that music does. Get it?
Yeah. Figured yall would.

Anyway I'm lame and I learned in some movie that its not my fault if people wanna waste their money. So why not try to get a slice of that pie?


Justin Daniels and Shannon Haynes on Honeyfund.com #DamnDaniels #Honeyfund

 

This isn't an ex but I lived with 2 girls and one of them was on the same wavelength as me. If the clean dishes have been put up and the dishwasher is unloaded why tf would you put your dishes in the sink and not just wash it off and put it in the dishwasher? I wash pots and pans by hand. We kept asking the other roommate to stop doing it and she didn't stop so the other roommate would pile her shit on her bed everytime. I'm not talking a dish or two, she would cook a full meal and it would start to smell after it was in there for a while. Dishes in bed happened 3 times and then she stopped and moved out when her lease was up. I lived with the clean one for 3 more years and it was easy bc we cleaned our own shit.

Another thing was your bedroom can look like a disaster I don't care. We had two living rooms and she would leave all her shit in both rooms. It's a common area so you should take your shit to your room when you're finished with it.

Other roommate is an artist and we had a table that we weren't allowed to touch bc her paintings would be drying. She painted a hugely detailed lion for 6 months (she's a perfectionist) and she wanted to finish it and give it to her mom before she died of terminal cancer. Asshole roommate put her books on it and ruined the painting bc it was an oil painting and they take forever to dry. She was devastated and slept in my bed with me for a month or so bc she felt suicidal at night. How can you be that inconsiderate and put your shit on her table when she asked you not to? She was the worst.

/rant (it still pisses me off)

 

They get washed eventually! Later.

I would die if I didn't have a dishwasher. Hand washing dishes is the absolute worst.

Or maybe I'd be more diligent about washing things right away

 

Having someone to split chores with would change everything. When I was living with my ex she rarely cleaned which made me apathetic about it

 

I don't know what it is but when I dust it will be like an inch thick and I have to dust again in a couple days bc it comes back. Super annoying.

 

You need your ducts dusted.

 

What is that?

 

Like the place where the air/heat comes out in your house. I had that problem because the furnace and shit was dusty AF.

 

Oh ok I'll do that. Airduct is a better word for it instead of calling it a vent like I do.

 

this girl at my work I've been trying to talk to told me I have a great personality so I'm like yesss. This is good.