Mental Health Thread • Page 420

just had a student threaten suicide to me via email because their thesis was rejected, so yeah, you could say I'm having a normal one (I'm a mandatory reporter)

 

A young reporter (42) with a family in our area killed herself in a particularly grisly way this past weekend and I made the mistake of reading comments on news posts about the passing. Sooooo many assholes asking if she was vaxxed, if she was doing a piece on the Clintons, etc...it turns my stomach. I literally don't know if I've ever had less faith in humanity. Just knowing these people exist outside of social media pulls me closer to the abyss.

 

People are trash

 

I miss having friends.

 

I don't handle negativity well and the vibes are abysmal at our house right now. It's my wife's birthday and we have COVID, so I can't explain that there was a surprise party planned because it's been rescheduled for next month. I can't cook a nice meal to make up for it because she can't taste anything. All the blinds are drawn because she has a bad headache. Just a brutal 30th birthday and it feels like there's nothing I can do to fix it.

 

Having no one to talk to sucks. One of the downsides of being alone. I never really had anyone i could talk to. Either the relationship/situationship wasn’t that serious nor lasted longer than maybe 2 months or I didn’t fee comfortable talking about certain things. It makes me feel even more lonely. I just want this loneliness to end

 

I go to concerts by myself because i love music that much and my wife really doesn’t like them. I’ve come a long way with my social anxiety and my therapist told me recently a lot of people wouldn’t be able to do it. Last night at the Menzingers show, a group of four guys who were twice my size were standing behind me and shoved me repeatedly and purposely followed me to laugh when they did it and laughed with each other when I sang the words along with the band. It totally ruined my enjoyment of the show and made me self conscious. I’m now going to be thinking of what other will think of me when I see Silverstein tonight.

 

Dude, what the fuck? That sucks. Were you even in some semblance of a pit?

 

No

 

Fuck them. You were enjoying the show, which is the whole fucking point of going. They're just immature douchebags who get off on putting others down.

Sing the music you like.

 

Those dudes are absolute losers.

I think I’ve said this in here before but when I used to get self-conscious alone at shows I would pretend I was there for work. Like I work for Rolling Stone or something and I’m reviewing the show for the band’s cover story. It’s literally so stupid lol but it actually helps!

 

I could never go to a concert by myself. The only concerts I went alone to were at a university while I was in school. Far less intimidating vs a large venue. I’m sorry that happened to you. Idk why adults have to be bullies. They probably have sad lives that they feel the need to go out of their way to bring someone else down to lift themself up

 

Absolutely loser behavior. I would have been really upset about it as well but you did the right thing. Just let it go they’re pathetic

 

Absolutely fuck those guys. Fucking losers.

 

My family has a long history of dementia and this has always been a concern and as I get older I see it pop up at times in aunts and uncles and my parents as time goes on.

Not sure if it’s “proven” but I definitely feel like if you’re not active with hobbies/people it can speed up. My aunt was a nurse for 30+ years and retired early in her 50’s and within a year it was a topic of constant conversation about how bad she was. Once she retired she didn’t do anything or go anywhere really.

And now we get to me. I’m 35 and there are things that I’ve done or not done or forgotten that are starting to add up and seem more than just forgetting or trying to multitask too much. And I’ve worked from home for 3 years so my interaction with people since 2019 has dropped significantly since I work from home 4 days a week.

Last week I put something in the microwave for 2 minutes and when it started beeping that it was done and then did the “reminder” beep that something was in there I was legit baffled what the sound was and thought my carbon monoxide detector was acting up. Took me like 10 minutes to realize, “oh yeah I’m making food”.

I’ve forgotten that was doing laundry and left clothes in the washer for hours.

A few times I have put things in the freezer or fridge that belong in a cupboard and vice versa. I’ve put things in the fridge that should never go in the fridge - my backpack, sunglasses, an empty bag.

I’m not sure if going to the doctor would help or be able to tell me anything or recommend things I can do other than try and be more social (and see if that counters any of the forgetfulness). I don’t believe I’ve caused any issues at work and don’t believe I’m behind on anything and I’m physically active with a lot of running and one of my hobbies is building Lego and I eat decently I just… idk. It seems very weird to be as forgetful and mixing things up like I have at 35 years old.

 

Ever been tested for ADHD?

 

Yeah that sounds a lot like my wife’s ADHD

 

I have not been, no. Didn’t even think/know if these kinds of things would be related to ADHD.

Besides working from home when the pandemic started and that continuing nothing else has truly changed in my life and I don’t recall having any forgetfulness (to this extent) before 2021 really so I wonder why (for whatever it is) why it’s happening now, but I’m sure a medical professional could list a dozen reasons how/why pretty easily lol

 

Although I guess another thing could be that I’ve been in my job for almost 3 years now and over 6 total with the same company dealing with the same 50ish people or so and proper to this company I always ended up in different fields of work after 2ish years because I would get bored / listless so I’d leave or get promoted. With this company it’s been over 6 years and 2 position changes so while I don’t believe I’m missing anything or screwing up work, I am quite bored because it’s been 3 years and nothing is challenging with it anymore so I’m sure mentally I’m more “vacant” during work then I would be if I was only a year into a new position/company

 

ADHD often gets put into one box, but people don't realize it can present itself in many different ways. I would suggest taking notes of things you've noticed about yourself and presenting them to a doctor.

Memory and attention are complicated things. I am also scared of memory problems because of my genetics/family history, but don't allow that negative nagging of "it's gotta be dementia related" to drag you down. You're young and doctors know a ton of information now they didn't before to help these issues.

 

not doing so good lately

 

Not sure where to post this, but the fact that my wife is being forced to go back to work to treat patients before the holidays while she is still. testing positive for COVID is really, really discouraging to both of us. All she can do is mask and be as careful as possible, but of course her OCD is going nuts about getting someone else sick. If it were up to us, she would not go back until she tests negative and hasn't had symptoms for two days.

 

i'm getting laid off today. i've been working at this company my entire adult life (the past 16 years). i have a pretty good job in data analytics that i worked up to over the years. i have no post high school education and i'm terrified i'm not gonna be able to find a similar job with my resume. in absolute shock.

 

That's heinous. I can't believe they're putting her and the patients through that.

 

Jesus, so sorry to hear this. Not that there’s ever a good time to be let go but always infinitely worse right before a major holiday when you may have to see family/friends constantly and explain shit over and over again.

As someone who was let go once, all I can say and emphasize is that you getting let go doesn’t make you look bad (unless you got fired for stealing or some major crime or something lol) and don’t think less of yourself because of it. I kind of assumed that people would think I was an idiot/stupid/bad at my job and that’s why I got fired but no one gave me the impression they felt that way. And over the last 8-10 years I’ve known so many people in “fancy” major positions that got let go just like some random entry level person and sadly just realized after awhile that everyone can get shit on at any given time and it fucking sucks.

Take care and hang in there! Hopefully you maybe got some sort of severance or are able to get unemployment.