Mental Health Thread • Page 407

I don't think I'm going to be able to pursue my graduate degree for a number of reasons and it's a pretty crushing feeling knowing you might not have the chance to do what you actually want to do in life. and I'm feeling the strong urge to drink about it.

 

I’m not sure this is the right place, but I couldn’t find a more suitable thread. My best friend from high school just got married and I wasn’t invited. Like I know we grew apart but I personally still kinda felt like we were best friends regardless, peaks and valleys aside. So this kinda hurts. I’m suddenly feeling like if I misread the state of this friendship this badly, I probably have no real friends.

 

Not to say your feelings aren’t valid and sorry if this question makes you feel worse, certainly not meant to lol, but does he live close to you? Like maybe he thought, “anyone more than an hour away won’t come”. Or maybe they had like 10 people there? Guess it also depends on their stance and how they see weddings (obligation? Or fun?) which may say less about the friendship and more of “people don’t like these I’m saving people from feeling obligated to attend so I won’t ask” kind of thing.

 

I didn’t get invited to a a good friends wedding some years back and while I was bothered at the time it sort of fades away over time especially after seeing my brother go through planning his wedding and making the final call of who to invite, shit happens and it’s hard. I saw him a few years later at a mutual friends wedding and he actually said something about his wedding and it took a lot in me not to say “that I wasnt invited to.” Just let it slide and smiled and nodded

 

It's a hurtful thing. My sister is planning her wedding and was talking about not inviting her best friend who she was maid of honor at her wedding because they haven't really talked since then, but I told her she really needs to do it even if she doesn't think she'll come. My best friend is kind of a flakey guy and he asked some random dude he worked with to be his best man and it was really hurtful, eventually he came around (I think they also had a falling out) and he apologized, said he fucked up big time and asked me to do it. People are weird around their weddings and have a lot of things/people to juggle and a lot of pressure coming from a lot of different places.

 

It is insanely difficult to figure out who to invite to a wedding (especially with family input) and as hard as it is to not take it personally, you gotta realize some people get cut for no reason other than capacity

 

Thanks all. This helped a little

 

Weddings are for sure weird and there’s always this pressure to invite a bunch of people when the couple might just want to keep it more simple and low key. Honestly imo more people should elope haha

 

I'm just lurking for some solidarity because I don't even know how to articulate all the shit that's going on in my mind right now. Or maybe I'm just too lazy to type it out. That being said, things have been worse, somehow.

 

Got fitted for a wedding and hearing my body measurements makes me never want to eat again.

 

Yeah I gotta get fitted for my suit next weekend and not looking forward to it

 

Ugh relatable. I just got weighed at the doctors office and it sent me in a spiral the rest of the day and now my body dysmorphia has been like all over the place. One moment I think I see progress, the next hour I decide now I'm actually regressing, etc. Smh. We only get one body and we're so hard on ourselves

 

Every now and then I glance down at my bathroom scale, contemplate checking my weight, and then go "NOPE" and peace the fuck out. I can't remember the last time I've checked it

 

Yeah, last time I heard my weight was at a doctor's appt. It's not like I'm not trying. But it seems like no matter what I do, I'll never be happy with how I look.

 

I think you’re all hot

 

Thanks mang, you as well

I feel bad that my wife had to marry this

 

Had my first Spravato treatment Thursday plus started my depression PHP at Rogers. Just two days into the PHP but it’s already been super helpful, way more than the PHP I did at John Muir 4 years ago. It’s a lot more individualized. The Spravato was pretty wild. I must be sensitive to it because it was quite a trip. Never done psychedelics before so it was a bit unnerving and I felt very vulnerable but I think overall it was a good experience? Hoping it helps with my depression and anxiety. I’m supposed to do 8 treatments over four weeks before deciding whether to continue with it.

 

On the weight topic, I’d definitely like to lose some weight or at least become more toned. My fat seems concentrated to my belly and under my jaw which is not the most flattering and definitely makes me self-conscious. I grew a beard to cover up the double chin but I don’t really like how I look with it. But I guess I still feel like it’s better than shaved.

 

I say this and then I'm having alcohol and French fries for dinner. I guess my desire to be happy outweighs a desire for an unattainable beauty standard!

 

Popcorn for dinner here!

 

That's really how it ought to be. Life:s so short as it is. I'm all for being healthy, but what's a life of you can't enjoy yourself? I starved myself today and now I'm drinking (another issue) and will probably have some pretzels and penait butter or something as a snack, so it is what it is. I gotta try to remember that other people don't see me the same way I see myself.

 

At times I feel like I may be bi polar. When I look up symptoms, I feel like I don’t have enough symptoms. I’m trying to get finances together so I can get a proper eval by a psychiatrist. I know I have issues and feel “not normal” in my head most of the time if that makes sense

 

There's so much going on in my life right now, and it should be positive stress, but I feel like I'm dealing with it alone and it's so exhausting and depressing. I need a partner that wants to face our struggles together and comfort each other. I love my wife dearly, and it's not her fault, but her OCD literally keeps her from having any room for my problems and I'm kind of beside myself.

 

I think my work is the cause of my increased anxiety problems. I am working towards finding a new place bc I can’t live like this

 

So, uh, my wife’s grandma sold her house and gave us some of the money. I’m just completely in shock right now. I paid off two credit cards that were maxed out to get my credit back in line, an overdue balance at my psychiatrist, balance for the IRS, some dental work I’ve been putting off, and the rest in the savings account. Just…wow. People that say money doesn’t buy happiness clearly have never been poor.