Mental Health Thread • Page 366

No, I haven’t run into her in a while. I have no clue how to go about starting that conversation with someone whose name I don’t even know. It’s just an all around shitty situation

 

I actually had a similar situation with the upstairs neighbor recently, but it was only one instance. Next time I see her in passing, I plan on introducing myself and my wife and saying we live down stairs if she ever needs anything. It’s tough.

 

I feel like there’s something wrong with me health wise. The fact that I’m always tired and have no energy to do anything. On a day off of work I can’t get though the day without wanting to take a nap. I don’t care much about my appearance anymore. Not since covid mostly. I have so much going on in my mind I can’t put into words or express how i feel.

i want to find a new job (in the same field), but there are several factors that make it difficult for me to do so.

 

I keep seeing this Facebook ad and I’m speechless. Toxic masculinity…

 

“The way a man does it.”

why do I take this to mean no actual therapy takes place?

 

“We give you as much dry wall to punch as you need”

 

Like, I agree that a lot of men need therapy and that there should be way less of a stigma to that, but why the fuck do we need to gender it? Just call it therapy.

 

The intention is good but the execution is awful

 

I feel so drained and depressed. There’s nothing positive happening in an ever-boiling world while a pandemic rages and America is fast-tracked towards fascism.

I took a better paying job but the work-life balance is not there and now that the world is much more expensive I don’t feel like I’m making much more money than before but my workload has essentially tripled and I’m working 55 hour weeks.

we’ve paid over $7k in vet bills for our elderly cat in 2022 and she’s currently in the emergency vet as she keeps not eating for stretches of time and it just feels like we’re coming close to the end of having her.

this is just what life is? Work yourself to death, never have extra money, only the good things in the world are fleeting and everything else is just constant punishment. I have no idea how anyone doesn’t wake up every day defeated before getting out of bed.

 

I'm sorry to read all of this. Definitely know how you feel some days. Hell, most days. Wishing you the best with your pet, she sounds like she's been a great friend and I know there are plenty of other animals without a home that would be happy to have you once you feel ready. I hope the job situation improves or that you're able to find something new. I think work-life balance is key in this increasingly fucked up place we live in.

 

man I feel this hard, I have the opportunity to take a lead role at my work with a 9 percent pay increase. I like/prefer the position I’m in now because I am able to do my own tasks and not be so relied on, but I’ve had a test run in the new position and the guys I’m with are relatively new so they are very dependent on me so that’s stressful. Also the work life balance is also shite, I maybe see my partner a few hours a night.

I wish I could be like a majority of people and just turn my brain off/not use it and just be Completely unaware of my surrounding and what’s going on in the news. Unfortunately I apparently like giving myself anxiety by checking the news daily lol

 

My cat likely has cancer.

 

Ugh i'm so sorry Mike, all the good vibes I love your cat.

 

I feel this too much and honestly don’t know what to do to not feel like this. I was on some anti depressants that didn’t help and I really don’t want to go to the doctor again to try different medications because I don’t want those bills. Just an eternal cycle of shit.

 

because it doesn't. Duh.

 

I'm so sorry Mike

 

My anxiety has been v significant lately. At first I thought I was just burned out at work but even on the weekend I feel it. Every night before bed I get this sense of anxiety and dread and don't want to sleep and deal with the next day. It's made me depressing to be around in the evening.

I've also been bummed with my sister. She divorced my BIL and I'm SO glad she has a supportive parter now. But I never realized how I "benefited" from her ex being so... not present. I got to go on family trips with my sister and nephew and felt like part of their unit. Now that she has a supportive partner (which I'm happy about) she wants to do everything with him and I feel sidelined. It's just a hard adjustment. I usually stayed with her and my nephew when I visited my hometown but now her bf and his kid are always over so it's too full a house and I have to stay somewhere else. For just like one weekend they can't not do that. Every time I visit her bf is there. I never get just sister or nephew time. He's a nice person it's just tough.

 

Ugh as an update apparently my lil sister felt the same way about our older sister always being with her bf 24/7 and no sister time anymore. She tried to talk to her about it and it sounds like it didn't go well. To be fair my lil sis can be abrasive but I think she just said something similar to how I feel and our older sister got super defensive about it. Idk. It sucks. I have such trauma and resentment from my parents divorce and I feel like divorce just ruins people and it's weird seeing my older sister change and do things I wouldn't expect.

 

I probably should make a doctors appointment as I have almost everyone of these symptoms.

 

I don’t know what the next step is for an autism diagnoses in your 30’s. It would explain a lot about why so many things are tough for me (driving, socializing, anything that involves interacting with another person, chopping) but I don’t know what comes after it. This is just the way I am and how I have to go through life. The only thing I can think of is that it might make me a better parent if I pass this on because mine did a horrible job of addressing my flaws when they came up. They just assumed I should be able to figure anything out “because I have a high IQ” and didn’t think of how tough it is for me to communicate with anyone.

 

I relate to this so much. I don't have autism, but I had undiagnosed ADD until this year and it changed everything for me, honestly in a positive way. I'm smart in some ways, but I was getting so frustrated with myself because I struggled with logic and tasks that were simple for other people. I tend to require clarification of what exactly someone is asking me to do, and if I don't ask, I usually interpret it in a way that leads to me doing something only tangentially related to what they originally asked for. I have all or nothing brain when it comes to impulse control and I tend to either overthink or not think at all. It really started to affect my self-worth until I spoke with my therapist and psychiatrist about it.

I don't know what the next step is either (my assessment for ADD was set up by them), but I think just knowing could provide some relief and I hope you're able to find that. You sound like you'll be a great parent regardless.

 

I've been talking to a therapist about this but it hasn't gone anywhere yet because most of the resources she has are for children or parents. She did let me a borrow a few books about sensory & social issues that are helping, though. I just keep beating myself up over how this was a problem for years & never connected the dots on why. It feels like I wasted most of my teens & 20's by isolating myself from the rest of the world while everyone else went onto succeed in life. My fiance was diagnosed with ADHD last year & has been dealing with similar trauma. She says it's just part of healing, though.

 

Yep. I'm really sorry to hear that, but I was going to say - it's hard to connect the dots when your illness prevents you from doing so. I feel the same way thinking back on jobs where co-workers or bosses (or even my own fiancee) couldn't grasp why i was struggling so much with a certain task. Try to be gentle with yourself, friend.

 

feel like shit

 

:( I'm sorry homie.