The Parenting Thread • Page 101

Sounds like what my sons school does here in LA too.

 

I've posted about it before, but my sister-in-law runs a children's art studio in Boulder called Tinker and she just launched a subscription box for kids age 4-8. She also has some free projects/workshops on YouTube if you want to check it out:

 

When will we get the justice we deserve and have "Lego back" recognized as a serious chronic debilitating condition?

 

Took off the side of our kids crib tonight... put her down, immediately got up and started crying for us. Let it go for about 30 min and then my wife went in and laid on the floor next to her, tried sneaking out 15 min later... nope. It's been 1:45 min and she's out in the living room with us now. Help.

 

What's the harm of her just crying in her room?

 

Yeah I go back, and forth on it. He’s been great lately, but my two year old still has problems sleeping through the night. Tho I really do want to let him cry it out. It’s hard when he’s obviously wailing his head off for 10 straight minutes.

 

We got him a car bed. Haven’t put it together yet. He’s been sleeping p good this last month in his crib only waking up maybe once every night.

 

i know that dance. good luck tonight!

 

Losing our sanity.

I eventually caved in and just had her get in bed with me, while my wife slept on the couch lol... We didn't wake up until just past 10 (I'm off work for the rest of the week). We're just putting the side back on tonight and trying again down the road since she's not climbing over it yet.

 

How old? I have no real advice and as a parent sometimes I find it triggering but then, we’re in this thread so I’ll say we’ve been there, done that, with our first. He was very co-dependent. Difference was we WERE able to sneak out after he was out. Of course we also learned where to and not to step so as not to creak the floor. He’s 5 now and still kinda wants a 5 minute cuddle before we leave him for the night, sometimes longer, and we’ve come to embrace it. Sometimes WE need the mental break from the day. I’m sure us making that work for us started back in the “lay on the floor” days.
conversely, our 1y/o ONLY wants mom when he wakes. He’s MOSTLY sleeping through the night and waking to feed. Sometimes bottles will do for him and I do my best to let her get sleep but I’d say 80% of the time I’m in there for 30 or so before she has to lumber in and nurse him back to sleep. What I’m impressed by is our 5y/o sleeps right next to his crib and is relatively unscathed by the younger’s nightly wakes.
All this is to say sounds like you’re only a couple days into this. Hopefully by next week or the week after you’ll start finding a stride. Best of luck!

 

She's 2 1/2. We took the side off when our first kid was 20 months old and didn't have any issues. We tried laying down on the ground next to her (the one we're trying this with now) and then sneak out when she fell asleep but she just wanted us to read multiple books or lay in bed with her (not possible, with how small it is).

Creek wise, our house is 80 years or so old, creaking almost every step down the hallway to/from (and our) room. So that's always fun.

 

Maybe she's ready for her own bed?

We put both of our kids in their own bed by 2 1/2 and both times it was a total and absolute game changer.

 

Very bummed to report our son has a hitting problem at school. Not a road I am excited nor all that prepared to have to navigate. Anyone got any tips? Looking up blogs, pods, and books now. He’s 5 and in socially distanced preschool which makes it even more difficult.

 

My son recently swung a small object really hard at his cousin, and we obviously scolded him hard. Whenever he even slightly hits or nudges someone we discipline him immediately. Doesn’t happen often. He’s only 2 tho. Might be harder and harder to correct it the older they get.

 

I think finding a good book on it or podcast is a good idea

 

Ya the toughest part I’m seeing is WE need to intervene which we do when he’s home with his brother. When he’s at school he’s just got the teachers who we trust are trained in these things but when we’re called to pick him up it’s so crushing.

 

That definitely sucks. I would feel really bad if my son ends up doing these things when he’s in school. It’s also very common I’m sure with that age. I was definitely that kid occasionally.

 

A long time ago we talked about how sometimes our kids are cooler than us as kids. Mine definitely qualifies. So much swag.

 

Since dr Seuss is so celebrated in schools and has stories like the Lorax and the sneetches, I thought others might be unaware (as I was) of this information.
CW racism, racist slurs, ableism

 

Anyone have experience with sending an 18 month old to day care? My son recently started and its going very badly. Like, he doesnt stop crying the entire time he is there. We've tried sitting with him for a while and leaving immediately but as soon as he gets in the building he just shuts down and nothing external matters.

It doesnt help that the daycare provider seems very anxious around him. She tells us all the time that she hasnt ever seen anything like this. Considering pulling him and finding somewhere else that is more experienced with kids who arent comfortable at daycare.

 

Ugh. I’m sorry to say I haven’t but you might go with your gut about the provider. That’s always a tough and awkward call. Know that there’s nothing “wrong” with the kid AT ALL. Maybe another environment will be better for them.

Your line about them never having seen anything like this reminds me of the nurses that were on duty the night of our second born. They swore we didn’t know what we were doing. Baby gonna baby. That was somehow foreign to them. We were so pissed.

 

First bath went well! Much better than my daughter's first...screamed her head off.

Anyone else got a new born and an older child? My four year old is super hands on with him and it's great to see. No apparent jealousy yet...

 

Have a 5 year old, almost 3 year old, and a 1 year old, the oldest is a great big brother and loves on his sisters and is super sweet to them. The oldest daughter is a great little sister but a horrible big sister, she just screams and cries anytime the "baby" even comes near... although the youngest doesn't endear herself to the older daughter because she is kinda like a bulldozer. Really really hoping all of this is a phase and it'll get better with time.

 

I have a six year old and an eight month old. Our six year old is very loving and likes to pick up or play with the younger one

 

We’ve a 15 month old and a 5 year old. The 5 year old ADORES his little brother and always has. we feel very lucky to have had no jealousy issues yet.