The Parenting Thread • Page 100

I’m gonna be a mess when I’m not everything to him. Don’t tell me it ends.

 

I haven’t bought it myself yet. I appreciate the offer, but I would spend those credits on someone who can’t afford something, especially since it is the holidays. I’m not strapped for cash or anything, so I don’t want to take advantage of my privilege and would much rather you spend it on someone that may be down on their luck. Thank you so much for even offering though. I really love this community.

 

You won’t know it’s over until it’s long gone.

And something different WILL take it’s place. My son and I went for a run tonight and came home to eat pretzels and watch the Mandalorian. That’s pretty fucking great.

It’s not primal, instinctive devotion. But it’s earned love, and that’s as good a feeling as you can hope for. It’s deeper. It’s real. It’s still going to tug on your heart when you go to bed at night and thank God that kid made YOU a dad.

That’s worth it.

 

Being divorced with a child is fucking tough, man. I don't want our child to go to private school, mostly due to distance and costs, but mom is persistent on it. I told her I don't think it's fair to split the costs ($13k/yr) when I don't want him there. Now she's getting a lawyer involved.

 

That’s a harsh situation. I had to deal with my daughter’s mother this past summer wanting to put her in preschool, which I slammed my foot down on because hell to the naw is my daughter going to preschool while the pandemic is raging. It gets better too because not only did the mother argue this with me, but she also set things up behind my back, with zero consolation, and thought I was just gonna go along with it. She lost.

 

I'm curious as to what her reasons for private school are?

My wife grew up in private school and my son goes to Pre-K at one because that's our only option but as soon as he (and my daughters) are able, they'll be going to public.

 

I think just to give him "the best". She wants him to have a good education. Kind of sucks because she lives in the city and I moved to county so he'd be in a better school district, but now we're here. Private school is 20 minutes drive with no traffic, will probably be closer to 25-30 each way. Public school is walking/biking distance.

 

In my opinion most private schools being the best is a crock of shit but I'm probably biased.

 

What age did your kids actually not fight you on potty training? My son is 2.5 and just won't do it. I guess he is still a little young.

 

Trained a boy and a girl. First of all, boys are hell at it. But if he’s fighting you, he’s not ready.

Keep offering it as a suggestion, but don’t force it. That creates fear and anxiety for all, which helps nothing. Also, strange but true, I also recommend having one bathroom with an open door policy - where one of you (it was me both times) goes with the door open. Make a big deal when your going in (“oh I need to go pee now, here I go to the potty” with a big exaggerated walk). Your kiddo will get curious and want to try it with you, the same way they do anything else. Have a potty in there so they can sit right down if they want. Just make sure your spouse is on board and gives you both privacy. And I wouldn’t recommend this approach if you have a need for a “non standard” bathroom trip, like anything loose.

If they want to join you, eventually they will want *you* to join them when they have a breakthrough. This is the BEST time to push it ever so slightly. Lots of salty snacks and popsicles so they’re going all the time.

Parenthood is all about managing the various piss and shit that comes your way, figuratively and literally. Your little guy will show you when he’s ready. Just give him plenty of chances and make it fun. You’ve got this.

 

My son is coming up on turning three in February and he flat out told me he’s not ready. He has peed in the potty, but pooping he won’t do yet. I always go with the door open and have his potty out for him. He’ll get there soon. It’s all about patience I’m told.

 

I’ve fallen in love with this app. Their library is relatively small but the books it does have, it’s super fun to use! ‎Novel Effect: Read Aloud Books

 

My son was potty trained by age 3, but that was because we had to in order for him to start preschool. My daughter was also potty trained prior to turning 3 (but she never ended up starting preschool due to COVID).

That said, my son wore pull-ups to bed up until he was almost 6-years-old, and still has accidents every now and then at night time. My daughter also still wears pull-ups to bed, although she's still only 3. To me, that's the hard part, getting them to stop peeing the bed, and really, there's not much you can do about that other than getting them in a routine before bed (stop drinking at a certain time, making sure they use bathroom before bed, etc).

 

Poop was a nightmare for my son. It was just easier for him to go in his pull-up. Eventually we realized it was because he likes to sit way down and use his legs (the way nature intended!) and he couldn’t push the same way on his potty chair which was too high and left his legs hanging.

Don’t underestimate the need for a good fitting potty chair, folks.

 

He has his little potty that sits on the floor. I think he’s still trying to figure out the concept fully. He also likes to fill his mouth up with juice and then spit it into his potty. Really trying to break him of that.

 

Took our dude a little longer than we expected to want to do it, like 3 1/2. But one three-day weekend, we decided to put him in regular underwear and just go with it. He peed his pants quite a few times, but by the end of day three he was good to go.

 

I think that's ultimately really the way to go...put them in underwear for a few days straight, knowing full well they'll have a few accidents, but unlike a diaper, it's really uncomfortable to go to the bathroom in your underwear so the quickest way for a kid to learn is by discomfort.

 

We were spoiled I fear with our first. He potty trained over the long thanksgiving weekend after his second birthday. Our second will probably be a nightmare.

 

When we were potty training my son he got good quick with peeing but he’d ask for a pull-up to poop in.

 

Got our family photos back for this year. Our EP drops q1 2021. Haha

 

lol

 

So my son pooped in the bath last night......he’s literally never done that. It then turned to me grabbing him, and giving him his first shower lol.

 

It was a thing for a good year to year and a half time span for my son to poop in every bath he took

 

Hello to all, guys! I know that it is very important to spend your time with your children, but I have an issue related to it. I've found a new job and now I can't sit with my twins at home. Should I think about kindergarten? Or it is not a good idea in the time of pandemic?

 

Kindergarten is always a good idea for kids who do not communicate with other peers. Of course, during the pandemic time, it is quite a complicated question. Although, my kids are in one of the daycares in Brooklyn - Child Care & Daycare in Brooklyn, NY | Little Scholars. I was choosing that place very carefully asking all my friends who have kids and searching for information on the Internet. I like that they take care of kids' health. They do not allow parents to come in, they clean and sanitize all the rooms every day. Once my kid had a sore throat, and they did not allow him to come as well. Of course, sometimes it can be unexpected, but this is the only way to protect everyone from the virus.