(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 180

In my experience, relationships with this much questioning and uncertainty so early on never, ever work out. I truly believe it is time to let her go, @ChaseTx. There is someone out there you will click with without any of these concerns. You will be much happier then.

 

Eh I know what's going on. Just complaining about it.

 

You know Isildur is too proud to be rational

 

In my experience, if you try to force friendship in the aftermath of a longterm breakup it lasts exactly as long as it takes for one party to start dating someone else.

The only serious relationship I've successfully morphed into a rock solid long term friendship (and the breakup was pretty bad for both of us) was because we'd been friends for years before and we gave each other a lot of space. Months of it. And then some more space. But slowly we started communicating again and now things are great, he's one of my favorite humans and it's not even remotely weird.

But we only got to that place because we had enough space to gain clarity, for feelings to settle and to let ourselves become who we were without each other. I honestly don't think it's possible otherwise - despite what TV shows say, if both parties haven't had the time and space to move on then that friendship will always have an incredibly painful undertone.

Best of luck, whatever happens. I know it's not easy.

 

something about plunging us into darkness?

 

The hearts of men are easily corrupted

 

Thank you very much. I'm trying to be very careful to limit interaction as much as possible while not coming across as cold or upset at her. Work was pretty tough this morning because I guess everyone could tell I wasn't "myself." It still feels like a bad dream that I'm waiting to wake up from but I'm doing a bit better now having some time to myself. Definitely appreciate your words.

 

Spot on, really. @Anna Acosta

 

Thank you. As much as I'd like to think I'll meet somebody I doubt think that will happen. Not many girls are looking for a dude with a crappy job, low self-esteem, and who doesn't go anywhere because he has constant panic attacks.

So as shitty as it sounds I'll probably be alone for the rest of my life.

 

My boyfriend and I were on Skype this morning and he told me he has enough money for a plane ticket and a hotel, but now he's saving for more money to do things while he's here and buy me presents as well! I don't know when we're going to meet but I'm very excited!

 

Nah, fuck that. I know getting broken up with is a gigantic kick in your self esteem's balls, but I promise the pain will subside. You're stronger than that even if you don't know it yet.

 

I've been single for too damn long.

 

I've been single for 4 or 5 years. Sometimes I wonder how it'll be down the road. All of my friends who've gotten married have vanished. Being single is fine now but if all my friends vanish cause they're busy, and if my family all spreads out which it sounds like they'll do within a few years, then I'll really feel lonely. But I don't just wanna date cause I'm lonely I wanna date cause I'm really into the person. Clearly I'm ahead of myself.

I have a feeling my life will end up as me just working and being an aunt and maaaybe fostering if I make my mind up on kids, but I can totally picture myself being single in the long run. I barely leave my house and don't do online dating. I think I'd have to make a big change in my life to get in a relationship and that prob won't happen for at least a few more years. Guess you never know.

 

I haven't been in a relationship since high school and even that wasn't much of a relationship, I'm bad at talking to people I'm interested in.

 

I'm in the same boat where I haven't been in a relationship in like four years. I just don't know really since if I talk to someone, we typically get to a close stage and they just decide to stop talking to me. It has happened with the last two ladies and I just went "hmph ok then"

The only thing that really sucks is what Kiana said with seeing my close friends being in a relationship and there is just me on the side. I mean I'm happy for them and all but I just get a little bitter.

 

I'm lucky that most of my friends suck at relationships too.

Well, not so much suck at relationships as that we all seem to struggle to find people we click with.

 

I had a dream I met a woman, we slept together, she was nice and I cared about her,then I pushed her away. My unconscious isn't even subtle at this point.

 

Sounds like my past few relationships

 

An ex accidentally liked one of my Instagram photos while creeping last night. We haven't spoken in well over a year.

 

That's insane.

This was really strange timing because I was literally creeping on her Instagram yesterday too. Haha.

 

my ex sent me tumblr messages off his friends account a couple of months ago. we broke up 3 years ago.

 

Ugh, now I'm thinking of texting her. Haha. Just to say something like "Liking my photo, I see." There hasn't been a word between us in about 15 months, but I just find the timing so strange that we were both checking on each other last night.

 

I'm back to the swiping business that leads nowhere