(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 178

Yeah, you're right. This is more of an "I miss you, call me if you want" note, but I think it may just make things worse if she's still unsure or whatever the case is

 

Ugh I'm at her work and she covered her face when I walked by. What the fuck

 

That's bad

 

Yeah I'm kinda pissed. Last time I saw her was a week ago and everything was great. She seemed crazy about me.

I just talked to her and asked her what's up and she's gonna call me

 

Oh and she said no to stopping by after work instead of calling so. Another really bad sign.

 

I would give her some space. Not because she might need it, but because you clearly do. I hope you don't take offense to that. I am speaking from personal experience. Sometimes you can care too much and be clingy/needy even if you don't think you are. She clearly wants space, and you trying to get time and being rejected is only hurting you. Know what I mean? Obviously, this is far easier said than done.

 

It's just such a sudden shift. I get that she needs time (maybe infinite time, guess I'll find that out later) but it seemed to come from nowhere. I've been leaving her alone since this whole question came up on Friday. Then there's the possibility that she doesn't want to see or talk to me because she started dating someone else.

I mean ugh I'll wait for her if that's what she wants but I'm just left in the dark here

 

Yikes. Your last sentence is very telling to me (I have said similar things). I am sorry you are in this situation. I urge you to move on and forget about her. You deserve better. I don't know you really at all. But no one deserves to be ignored and be viewed by someone as "someone I might date next". I won't pretend that it would be easy for you. But it is unfair to you for her to treat you that way. Whether she is dating someone else or not is basically irrelevant. For whatever reason she has turned against whatever you had, I recommend you protect yourself.

EDIT: Do not allow her to control you and your emotions.

 

That's the thing. If she's dating someone else, fine. That's kinda shitty since things were going seemingly really well with us, but I'm not going to hold out for her. If it's something else, I want to know what.

I don't mean this to sound aggressive or demanding. I just want to know if she wants to slow down or it's just done.

 

I get it. Been there. But it's just letting her control you when she wont even give you attention. It's not worth it.

I don't want to pressure you too much. But that is my advice.

 

Yeah I feel like that's probably the case. I think she'll call tonight and depending on what she says I'll probably need to unfollow her on fb & sc and leave her alone, permanently or until she wants to spend time with me again

 

I agree with @Greg. I have been through this before, and it is not worth putting yourself through. She is not worth it.

 

Yeah, I feel like I've been through it a ton of times. I hate feeling this way and I feel like it makes me look bad because it's hard to let go. Once I know for sure things will be back to normal I guess.

 

Sorry for what you're going through, @ChaseTx . As everyone else has said, you seem like a great guy and you definitely deserve better.

 

Thanks for saying so! I always get really bummed when these things inevitably fall apart. This one got a bit more serious than usual. It's no big deal I guess

Ok I can deal with it now, venting over

 

Chasetx seriously I'm sorry. That's a really shitty situation and I agree, you deserve better.

 

Well it lives on apparently. It's a space thing. But apparently the relationship is a big question mark for her.

 

I don't know what that means. But it sounds like she is just stringing you along.

 

Feels that way too. Anyway, it seems we're not a couple like I thought. I'm single until she gets herself figured out.

 

... Fucking relevant.

 

could be worse

 

I asked if she's still interested in me and she said "somewhat". She has a lot of doubts I guess. I'm giving up on it until further notice I guess.

 

It's a yes or no question. Anything but a yes is a no. Good to hear.

 

could be better