(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 159

I do however have a prob with my BFF jumping into things bc she does it every time and comes on too strong and it ends. EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. Maybe she will marry this dude but building a house together after 2 months of dating is risky. Especially when you look into her dating history.

 

You know I never asked my parents how long they dated before they got married but they were teens and already had 1 kid and then realized they were pregnant with me so they did a shotgun wedding, so I'm guessing it's not a romantic timeline/story lol. I wonder why they didn't work out......

 

There's just a lot of weird dictating what people should do and how they should feel.

 

I know what you mean, like especially if we both work, there isn't a lot of time to spend together, and more so if schedules are different. Probably can only see each other on the weekends. With that, a guy isn't going to know that he loves me in 3 months by only getting together on the weekends. Telling me that early isn't going to make me feel special, and it may make me feel like "just another girl he dates". I want to feel special lol.

I'm afraid to fall in love quickly, I'm afraid to get hurt so I'm super guarded. I'm just a big complete mess and idk if many guys can handle that are love someone like that...

Of course theres more to divorces, but I guess I'm talking more about "young" or "early" divorces, people who divorce after a year of marriage, or people who marry early and get divorced around when everyone is getting married, that only makes me things those marriages were rushed (for whatever reason). That makes me wonder if the love was real. Again every situation and everyone is different.

 

This conversation is really bizarre and uncomfortable to read lol

 

My parents got married at 18 & 20 which is bizarre to me. It wasn't a shotgun wedding or anything, I'm the firstborn and I came two years later. They're still together but also ive never seen them kiss or anything so I don't fully understand their relationship

 

That's better than walking in on them banging.

 

It makes me uncomfortable when my parents flirt. Not mature of me but meh.

 

" it wasn't me"

 

I think my commitment issues can be traced back to my parents divorce. Super trauamatizing. For a while it made me more of a romantic cause I liked to think of an actual loving functional relationship and how that'd be but now I'm just a jaded bitch lol

 

I'm just bad at things

 

Same. All the things. That's barely hyperbole.

 

Psh

@muttley isnt even that good at hyperbole

 

It's 90% accurate, 10% exaggeration

I had to clarify since it wasn't the full hundo

 

I'm bad at all the small talk true care truth brings

 

I'm gonna wind up buying a Corvette in 25 years.

 

A friend of mine just got engaged... less than 6 months of knowing the guy. I'm almost certain its cultured, like arranged marriage because it was a traditional engagement ceremony and yeah I didn't know she was ~into the whole traditional culture stuff, because I know some people who are against arranged marriages and the guys I've seen her with

 

I'm not judging her. You don't know me or my friend. I'm just surprised because I didn't know she was dating anyone, and I she never came off as someone who wanted to follow "tradition" so its a huge shock to me. Time may not matter to you, or some others, but it matters to some people. You're the one thats coming off judgey.

 

I feel like this conversation consists of people saying "to each their own", then following up with "But, explain this to me because what you're saying seems really wrong."

 

This doesn't make sense, ComedownMachine isn't judging anything.

 

Missed this. But, I agree.

Also, I think people are being a hard on Neptune for no particular reason.

 

I pay every time early in the relationship because it's expected, unless she insists which is always nice