2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 74

be nice to James

 

why

 

it’s not his fault he is the way he is

well actually it is, nvm be as rude as you want

 

Grant, what the hell

 

Make a PowerPoint

 

Do not intend to come off as humble braggy but it's rly bizarre to me like.... Having people match and message me? My self esteem is fairly low and it honestly doesn't rly occur to me that someone would even be interested. I've always felt like the "ugly sister" or "ugly friend" or whatever because I'm used to the people I'm with getting all the attention and just being in the background unnoticed. It's odd matching with someone I'd never even think would be into me at all?? I think my guard is so high up irl that I'm not v approachable. Idk. I literally don't date or ever even talk to men at all in my personal life who are not my family and not on this site lol. I'm not like cooking up hot dates on tinder or anything lmao but it's been an interesting experience. Maybe cause I'm not going into it with any sort of specific expectation but it is feels v foreign and bizarre but not rly stressful either. Feels like a surprising scientific study or something lol

 

dating apps have completely killed my self esteem and yet I keep going back to them hoping something would be different lmao.

 

I don't talk to people very often but find them fascinating in a way where I feel like I'm an alien sent to earth to see wtf humans are about lol so it's been interesting. I still have one guy where we seem to have lots of interests in common but his messages are boring af. I have guy with ugly spelled name who actually seems p nice and cool so far. Then I have this one guy who is all adventurous and likes to brag about it and his life seems exhausting in that way.


I think my problem is that I have a hard time making legit human connections because I view it as an interesting sociological study rather than like... Viewing them as human beings lol

 

Still Hoping this tinder guy will message me back. Hoping he just hasn’t been on. Why match someone and if they message you you don’t respond? Unless they live far away and you didn’t know it?

I honestly feel like I’m just destined to be alone and there’s nothing I can do about it.

 

I got out of a 3 year relationship in August (the fire wasnt the same for both of 6+ months and it was inevitable) and after reflecting, I've gotten back in the online dating scene as I never really got to experience it. Met a really cool girl on Bumble and we're having our second date tomorrow. (first date was Friday last week) We've been talking all day every day for the past week and it already "feels" like a relationship. Hearts, intellectually stimulating conversations, comforting/supporting each other during the week, "text me when you're home", writing letters, lots of flirting, etc.

Feeling very confident about this. Also surprised cuz the last 3 dates I've been on have ghosted me after so its nice to see some progress!

On the first date we had a lot of synergy and made a bunch of inside jokes that was often referenced a lot during the day and we got to hold hands after which was nice. She missed her bus and I offered to drive her back to her college if it wasn't weird, and she said she was down, so we got to listen to Surviving for like 15 mins, which she digged, and had a cool convo about how all the roads on the way were named after plants (she's a botanist). Turns out she left her wallet at the bus stop, so when she called me on my way to work, probably like 15 mins in on a 40 min drive, I offered to drive back to give it to her and ended up being late to work, so I'd like to think that scored me some thoughtfulness points haha!

 

Continuing off the wallet story:

her: hey... did i uh, leave my wallet in your car?

me: ummmm. I don't see it here, no...

her: shit. i mustve dropped it at the bus stop cuz I had it with me there

me: hm.... ican go check it out, ill be there in like 20.

Then, I found it, and took a selfie with it and sent it to her in which she replied "my hero!!". I drove another 15 mins to her dorm and she looked super happy but embarassed and apologized for having me take the detour and I was like "It was nothing; had to wrestle a grizzly bear for it and drove into straight into a tornado, but thats a story for another date" and i got a real big smile out of her <:

 

I got invited over to a lady’s apartment after I get off work. Let’s see where this goes

 

Omg spoke with a guy on the phone. Pros: he's a feminist and referenced Max Weber and vaguely knows who Jimmy eat world is. Cons: I forget his name and can't find him on tinder anymore??? But I feel like it's past the point I can ask their name. I'm like... A solid 60% sure what their name might be. What's a smooth way to ask someone their name when you've talked to them long enough that you should know it lol

 

Maybe ask him how he spells his name? Like reference it as a name you’ve seen spelled a few different ways and you’re curious how he spells his?

Although if you do this hopefully his name isn’t Tom or something lol

 

“How do you spell your name” is a good one but then if it’s like peter then you look like a dummy

 

Don't worry I managed to bring the MacDonald Triad into conversation pretty early so I am #winning. Why am I single I totally don't give off serial killer vibes??

 

Damn jinx
I mean like seconds apart but your post wasn’t there when I started typing I swear lmao

 

Yeah I didn’t see yours until after I posted either lol

 

If his name is what I think it is, this is a good question. Hey there is Tom vs Thom and Peter vs ... Peder?? Lol idk

 

Ya at least with Tom you could be like oh idk like u know...thom Yorke....you never know

 

Omg I was gonna comment about "well with the way people spell their names these days!" But then felt like a baby boomer immediately

 

it just gets confusing if they don't all spell it the same way, if someone is named Megan or Caitlin it's like I won't figure out which of 8 spellings they're using

 

You could also ask the origin behind their name. My name is Iago because my mother was super into Shakespeare during her pregnancy, for example. They'll most likely say the name in their answer.

 

But then they'd prob ask the origin of my name which is

 

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