(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 156

2 years, but there's no set right or wrong time. except there are wrong times, and it's anytime before 2 years.

 

That's a long time

 

Two years feels way too long. If I needed two years with someone before I knew I loved them, I would imagine the connection wasn't very strong in the first place.

 

I don't have a lot of experience but I would say several months so the excitement of being with someone new wears off so there's no way you're basing it off that.

 

I've always known within the first six months. I can't imagine staying with someone I didn't love for two years unless it was a casual FWB-type situation.

 

I think two years is appropriate. Like you don't have to wait to "feel" anything at that point but it say it to someone... Guess it just depends on the relationship and the people. Some people may have a really hard time opening their heart

 

So you're advocating not sharing your feelings with your partner?

 

Four to six months.

Edit: that just seems reasonable to me. I never say it first, though.

 

my parents had me within like a year of meeting each other, I would hope they didn't wait 2 years to say I love you lol

also I don't think there is a "right time" but I feel that sense of "there's a right time and when should I do this" for everything so I get it

 

Both my exes said it to me first and I didn't say it back right away to either lol. The first we like barely knew each other and we were young so it was obv puppy love on his end and I never said it back.

The 2nd I said it eventually but meh I don't even know if I was looking back. I think I thought I loved him but now I wonder. But I said it like a month after he did.

 

you can certainly think it before two years, but definitely shouldn't say it.

the few times a girlfriend has said "i love you" to me it was always way, way, way too soon and resulted in an immediate break up.

 

No I never said that. Don't twist my words around

 

Exactly.

 

Uhm just trying to clarify. Seems you're saying exactly that, though.

 

Umm okay No -.- I never was trying to say not sharing feelings whatsoever. Don't wait two years to "feel" love. If you're not feeling anything around 6 months ish, end the relationship. Saying "i love you/I'm in love with you" before two years raises my concern (and imo it's early), but then I said that may depend on people. Like I don't know your relationship and how long you've known each other. You can share other feelings early on but I don't suggest saying those particular words

 

An immediate break up because they said they loved you before you were two years in?

 

I don't know if I'd even want to be with someone who freaked out that much if I said I loved them "too soon" especially if "too soon" is 2 years, at that rate you can get engaged to someone without saying I love you and that seems bizarre

 

That sounds like a lot of pressure for people who are social fuck-ups like myself.

 

Yeah I'm fine with the idea of someone not being comfortable with it for a while, that's their prerogative. It seems harsh for it to result in an immediate break up though if someone has feelings before the 2 year mark

 

exactly I'm capable of blurting it out on like the second date lol

 

Everyone should do what works best for them, but if I love someone I'm gonna tell them. Communication is really important to me. I could never keep that in for years.

 

plus I don't see love as that big a word, like I could say it like Regina George

 

What the hell? Two years is absolutely insane. I personally think you can say it whenever you feel it, doesn't matter how long it's been. A couple months is by no means too soon.

 

Sorry i didn't mean to quote this, I'm on mobile and my fingers stopped working.

 

My boyfriend told me like he's starting to love me a month in, granted we were dating another month and a half before that and then he said he loved me last week like 1 and a half months in. I didn't say it back because I'm not there just yet.

I've always been told it by my partners like a month in, always super soon like.