Unpopular General Opinions • Page 155

If I ever got engaged and wore a ring id be fine with like a cute little opal ring for less which is super cheap but even then liiike I'm not much of a jewelry person. I'd probably prefer a necklace because I don't like the way the band feels between my fingers

I def think it's ridic to spend so much on a ring when u can spend that like on a down payment or a fun vacation

 

the honeymoon seems more fun to spend money on than the ring and ceremony

 

If I ever get married it's just gonna be in my grandma's backyard and food will either be Mexican or in n out and I'll find some cheap dress off poshmark or something and the rest of the budget goes towards paying for my guests to go to Knott's Berry farm for the reception or like a honeymoon where I see Jimmy eat world in a cool place I've never been before.

 

I feel like it’s a huge risk though and a dude can’t tell a girlfriend he’d rather spend that money on a down payment... because it’s so ingrained in people’s heads that materialism is a legitimate way to show love. So many people see it like “you don’t really love me if you get me a cheap ring, spending money shouldn’t matter when it comes to a proposal” etc

Like, imo, yeah a down payment on a house together is a pretty strong display of commitment to that person, and people would be so much smarter for doing that instead haha. But it feels like society is still stuck on the romance of getting a pretty ring

 

Eh I feel like if the couple is close to the stage of getting engaged or married then they should each somewhat know each other's expectations, whether that be a big lavish wedding or a quick ceremony at the courthouse or whatever so the risk shouldn't be that big. I'm sure there are tons of times where that doesn't happen, but like in my ideal world lmao there'd be many discussions beforehand.

 

I thought this at 13 and bummed my parents out lol. Then they had my sister and were like "oh okay I get it"

 

That's why you gotta talk about those things.

Either way, no diamond. If ring, it'll be amethyst because I have to stay on brand.

 

Yeah, if you are buying a diamond ring for your SO it’s because you understand that is what they want and you’ve subscribed to that idea and are okay with it IMO

 

My ex and I bought simple white gold bands with inscriptions in them. Neither of us wanted anything expensive or gaudy. Thank god we didn’t waste money on diamonds, ugh

And if someone can’t tell their fiancée that they’d rather put money down on a home than a ring, then they probably aren’t a good fit to get married.

 

Diamonds are artificially made scarce and their value are inflated by diamond companies like De Beers. If you really want to split hairs about it, all gem stones are just pieces of carbon that mankind has deemed to be precious.

 

if you really want to split hairs about it, all human life is just pieces of carbon that we have deemed to be precious.

 

Damn, you got me there

 

Amethyst is actually my gf's favorite gemstone. If we end up staying compatible for a couple years and going that far (obviously it's early, but planning way ahead) I have already considered getting her amethyst instead of a diamond.

 

Hahah yes! Except my older sister who is like 32 and still has like a present list and I’m just like what are you doing who do you think we are?

 

My parents and siblings and I still do gifts for birthdays and Christmas (and Mother’s and Father’s Day) but it’s all practical stuff that is useful, nothing that most people think of as a “gift” in the greedy Western idea of a gift.

It’s like: socks, gift cards to grocery stores, cleaning supplies, yard stuff, maybe some clothes, maybe a book, etc. I’ve actually had trouble thinking of things the last few years so we usually just end up buying the dogs and young nieces and nephews a lot of shit.

 

Truthfully, the only diamonds that are worth it are ones that you have to fight crazy grey gorillas over.

 

Ppl always look at me weird and judgey for saying it, but I have an issue when someone says they'd adopt but it's like a last resort if they can't have a biological child. Idk I've seen enough disrupted adoptions which I think is like legit one of the most traumatizing things u can ever do to a child. Like it's a long and difficult and expensive process and it shouldn't be a last resort adoption. I know it doesn't necessarily mean you aren't committed to adopt the child, but I've become a cynical mess lol. Idk. At the end of the day if a child is adopted and is safe and happy that's all that matters, but I am always a lil skeptical. Espesh the "you have to adopt a newborn so you have that bond." Like if u can't bond with a child who isn't a newborn idk what to tell u, but ppl just have interesting ideas about adoption.

 

I would much rather adopt like a 5 year old haha,I can't imagine myself dealing with the non verbal stages haha

 

@Kingjohn_654 is kind of funny sometimes

 

Careful.

 

Idk how widespread this is but those adult coloring books have been a thing for a while now and I hate them. They're so tedious and the spaces are so small I'd rather just use a kids book if I wanna color something. During trainings or long meetings sometimes ppl will break them out with these rly fancy colored pencils and I'm just like eh

 

I love that because I think adult coloring books are awesome! Haha

 

Lord of the rings books are boring af. I don't need like fifty pages to describe a leaf on the ground ok!!

 

That's exactly how I feel.

I've tried multiple times to read The Hobbit but couldn't get past like page 50 because the only thing I learned was about a Hobbit foot

 

I actually did get thru The Hobbit book but never the LOTR books. I do love the movies except I never saw the hobbit movies. Viggo in the LOTR movies was def one of my childhood crushes