(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 131

She's awesome. I've had some crappy girlfriend's in the past, and I had a kind of crappy childhood (well, age 11-17), so she makes me feel like I have some worth for the first time ever. Like, if I can make someone as amazing as her so happy, I can't be all that bad, right? It keeps me going. I'm glad she's patient with me and didn't ditch me like girl at restaurant would have. haha

 

I would say it depends on the relationship. I have an ex where it was just too much being that one person. It felt very one sided. Like I was always there for him and didn't really have my own support and it was hard. The relationship was me constantly reassuring him and no matter what I did it didn't really help long term cause he needed to work some stuff out so it was this endless exhausting cycle. I think there's enough complexities in relationships to not completely dismiss someone saying stuff like that imo. But of course I understand that some relationships are prob healthier than my example lol

 

That's true. If you're just like a leech in a relationship, then it's maybe a little bit selfish to do that someone. For me, you can reassure me all day and it doesn't do anything for me. The OCD makes me latch onto things and it really leaves the realm of me being in control of it. I'm extremely depressed, but I also still put forth as much effort as I can to make her life better. She doesn't make my life suddenly good, like I'm still too sick to work and go to school, but she makes it more livable just by being good to me and giving me the chance to be good to someone. My relationship isn't like "fixing me" it's just the only reason I have to keep living a lot of the time. And I hate when people try and devalue the one thing I have right now. Some cases will be different than mine, though a lot of the time when people break up with someone for the reason of either themselves, or whoever there with finding most or all happiness in the relationship or needing to "find themselves" I kind of just role my eyes. Especially with the tone and wording the girl used at the restaurant (which was a lot more than just what I put in my original post.) I don't think overthinking happiness is good basically.

Sorry for long post. haha I try to be careful and detail my posts on here a lot because I've found myself in a lot more arguments when I was more vague in conversations. Sorry you went through a pretty negative experience on the other end of the subject I started though.

 

You're all good! No arguing here! Everyone's experiences vary. I just commented cause I've been on the other end and have prob said a similar sentiment with the happiness thing ha. But like I said that wasn't a healthy scenario. I think as long as everyone gives what they can (which can be expressed in so many different ways) and everyone feels respected and ok in that regard than good for them! Seems like you guys got it worked out. Glad you found someone who makes you so happy!

 

I just experience the Wednesday conversation boom... The pencil in the ass, the evanescence sex, all of it. What the fuck guys. hahahahahahahah I haven't laughed this hard, like, ever.

 

Those posts have to be preserved and archived and mandatory reading for everyone who joins this site.

 

I want a book made of them.

"Pencil in the Ass, a Chorus.fm Storybook"

 

Yeah this thread the past couple of days was our pinnacle of achievement in the forums. It's all downhill from here.

 

I'm glad there was no AP lurker bar, cause I was following for hours.

 

There was a lurker bar on AP??
That's like all I did there

Edit: what's a lurker bar? I'm assuming it shows who's lurking?

 

At the bottom of the page, you could see who was checking out the thread. It was great... but this was way back in the day. 2005-ish? I think.

 

The good old days.

 

My fwb might've turned into an actual relationship last night. Is that okay?

 

You're asking us?

 

nah not really, i'm kinda still drunk and just thinking aloud

 

If you guys have common interests outside of sex and don't have conflicting personalities, you should be good. Best of luck! What made you guys decide to make that transition?

 

relationships are cool glad to be entering one again but my romance game gnna be rusty as a motherfucker

 

As long as your sex game makes up for it, you'll be good

 

thats gonna be even rustier

 

I was trying Bumble this morning and had a conversation going and then I got a notification that she sent a new message and I opened it and the convo was gone! Guess she unmatched me, by accident probably

 

you and everyone who likes this post can quit whining and go here

ya miserable sods!

 

C'mon @lightning13 reboots are never as good as the original*

*i am pro separate threads

 

it could be the 21 Jump Street exception that proves the rule

 

I thought the fright night reboot was as good as the original tbh!

 

needs more live updates and we'll get there. I believe in the sexiness of everyone here, but also in the powers that the thread contains