(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 55

Adopt please

 

That's the best way to do it

 

Dairy is the worst, forget dating.

 

I once had a girlfriend who was devoutly Christian, while I would put myself in your boat when it comes to religion, (I describe myself as non-religious). The relationship worked out pretty well until it started to get really serious. At that point it became increasingly more difficult to bridge the gap between our beliefs or lack there of. She would occasionally ask how we would raise our kids if we had any, and I would say I wouldn't raise them with a particular belief but if they ever reached a certain age where they were curious I would show them what's out there and let them choose for themselves. She wasn't okay with that, and while that wasn't the the thing that broke us up, it definitely played a factor.

I would say though, to go for it with you best foot forward. One person's story doesn't necessarily have to be your own. Who knows, it may work out, and you may find that religion isn't as a big deal with you guys. Worst case scenario, it doesn't work out and hopefully you get good memories out of it.

 

I'd never, ever date someone religious.

 

I attract very religious ppl tho so idk what's going on there. The last two guys that asked me out, one I think might have ended up going to be a monk or something??? And the other played college sports and had lots of devoutly religious speeches when I googled him. Maybe I give a vibe.

 

Honestly the only types of people I've known at this age are either a.) super religious (specifically Christians) b.) not religious at all, or c.) not religious but "spiritual". I probably fall into category B but I can date/befriend B and C. I dated a C once and I think the unspoken agreement was to not talk about that realm of things and just accept that we didn't agree on certain topics. None of those things we disagreed on made me think that person was shitty for disagreeing though. Whereas with an A, I would probably disagree with a lot of what that person believes in AND think they're shitty. I haven't met many people who are just "kind of" religious that are also my age so I'm not really sure where I'd stand there with respect to if I'd date them.

 

I could never be with someone who went to church or temple every week, but some faith I'd be okay with

 

One specific time I tried to put it off because I thought a girl was super cool but then I started noticing that she was going to church like a lot and like being so busy doing that stuff that she hardly had time to talk to me. I mentioned that I don't think I'm cut out for a relationship for someone who was so devout that she didn't have time for me, not to mention the fact that I wasn't a fan of the lifestyle. She responded telling me that I'm going to be banished to hell and wished all these terrible things upon me that I kind of blocked out they were so brutal...

So yea, not fun. Not saying everyone is like that but it taught me a lesson about tolerance and thresholds.

 

I would classify myself as "kind of" religious. I don't think about it too much and I would much sooner date someone who isn't religious at all than someone who bases their life around church.

 

Here to echo @heartbeatsbroken's sentiments. I think it is possible for interfaith relationships to thrive, and I think it is possible for them to fail. Especially as a relationship evolves, concessions on matters of religion and politics can be particularly dooming. Establishing a dialogue early on is probably the most proactive measure you can take to avoid that fate. It may be flattering to know that she values you enough to ignore your differences, and it is probably tempting to accept her approval and attend to your commonalities. But regardless of the future of your relationship, religion is clearly a central component of her life and that deserves to be honored through conversation.

 

when it comes to bridging the gap between religions views in dating i would agree that having an open mind and being able to communicate feelings upfront is really the only way for it to survive. I feel like I am a pretty open and understanding person when it comes to her views as we have discussed between each other quite a bit which is nice and to lay everything out like how our expectations. its not that i oppose her religions views, i just don't have a definite belief yet. she knows that and completely understands.

 

the "i put god over everything" ones get on my last nerves

 

If I had to date someone religious, I would want to date a Buddhist. The ones I've come in contact with are nice AF.

 

I think that's the key to the success of any relationship, especially if you have differing views on major topics (religion, politics, etc.). You have to be able to communicate, and actually be receptive to each others words. Far too often people think communication is all about talking, but you also need to listen and find a comfortable middle. So kudos to you two for being able to do that from the get go.

 

I don't discriminate with dating. They could have whatever views they want to have in regards to religion, politics, etc. But when it comes to something more serious than dating I would definitely want to share the same views/belief systems with that person.

 

Definitely this. I have Buddhist following relatives and even their friends are cool. I just don't want someone to be turned off when I make jokes or tease about their religion, I'm bound to.

 

I could never date someone super religious and religious enough to tell me how God exists and everything happens for a reason/God had a plan for me blah blah blah bullshit like that. What ever number of religions are in the world, some people choose to belive in one of them, I choose to belive in none of them.

 

Id rather date someone super religious than super atheist. Both are weird, but one tends to be more positive while the other is usually really angry and negative.

 

That's extremely stereotypical and imo a horrible way of viewing the comparison.

 

i was generalizing not stereotyping. But also there's middle ground. I just went from opposite ends of the spectrum.

 

Outspoken Atheists are the worst

Not as bad as bigots but still

 

AAAAAND this is when I create an offshoot thread to discuss religion and get this conversation back on dating.

 

Haha, yes my bad

I asked out a waitress once and she gave me he number but then she didn't answer my text and I got sad

 

Dating sucks