(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 51

Obviously, you are in pain. But, given what you've said in the past, is there no space for empathy? I know you feel like you've done a lot for her, but that isn't the basis on which you should assess anything; I mean, I'm sure she feels that her body is betraying her and there is no rhyme or reason for it, so it wasn't a rejection efforts on your end, but an attempt to just feel in control. Again, I'm not trying to cause more pain or anything of that nature, and I'll shut the fuck up after this, but isn't that worth taking into consideration?

 

I guess that's better than what I get, no one ever wants to hook me up. Last time I was about to be set up my friend found out the girl had a boyfriend lol

 

Would they talk to them about you? That's probably the worst. I had an ex befriend all my friends and talk tons of crap about me to them and lie about how crappy I am because I kept trying to leave her abusive self behind.

 

It's only that one friend that does that tho. Other than that my friends' make friends are either taken or I'm not attracted to them. It sucks.

 

sounds like she doesn't know you all that well.

 

reminds me a Jim Gaffigan joke.

"ever handle two groups of friends meeting? that can be challenging. hey, uh... this group thinks i don't drink... and don't be thrown off by my British accent..."

 

Has anyone got hooked with someone by their friends and had it actually work out?

 

Define "work out"

I've had my friend introduce me to someone with the intention of setting me up and had that eventually become a relationship that lasted for like 5 months, but it didn't end well haha

 

Like all of my friends are taken and if they're not they're miserable and have given up completely. Nothing more annoying than someone talking about their significant other in a cutesy way whenever you talk about basically anything.

 

my cousin met his wife through a friend of our other cousin. i'm still baffled.

 

in sense, a good connection was made.

 

my two best friends in high school (and a bit after) dated since 7th grade (now married). i'd come back to the room from downstairs, or somewhere else, and have to constantly clear my throat or just flat out tell them to pull their pants back up because they'd start making out and god knows whatever else as soon as i left. no cutesy talk, just humpy hump.

not sure which is worse.

 

I guess just because she's done it in the past she thinks I should too. I told her it wasn't for me. She also says she doesn't know my "type" but seen me flirt with guys... Like that's my type what you see me flirting with

 

Pretty much how I feel. A rare exception to how often being set up by a friend works.

 

I'm not sure if he talked badly about me to her while we were together, but I know he did while after we were apart. I think he thought I'd expose him to ppl so he tried "exposing" me first. He would do weird things when we were together tho like when he was mad at me he'd talk to my bff and not me and buy her things (nothing extravagant lol like he'd be hanging out and he'd go to the corner store and buy her a snack and not me) clearly trying to make me jealous lol. He was manipulative and petty af. It was weird. I know u didn't ask for all of this but sometimes I start talking about it and it was just such a weird time in my life haha

I'm sorry you went through that. Are they still friends with her?

 

This friend has been with her bf for like 6 years and they're unofficially engaged. My other friends I hangout with are currently single but they can get any guy. Especially one of them. The other two I think are kinda picky in a way.

 

I'll be surprised if I ever date again. Been 4 yrs now. My job makes it so I don't ever interact with anybody except my students, and really if I'm not working I'm at home locked in a room with a metronome practicing. I've sort of lost all ability to be social, for the most part, and plus nobody wants to date the guy who lives at home still and drives the tour van as his everyday vehicle because it was give up his normal car or stop being able to tour.

 

You're right. And it's probably not surprising, I have these crazy swings from being angry, to being hurt and sad, to being sure I'm done with her, to madly wanting her back...it's exhausting. This morning I just wanted it over with. 12 hours later I have no idea what the fuck I want. I feel manipulated and used, but at the same time I need to realize that she's hurting too. She wouldn't have done this if she wasn't. So thanks for your words, a different perspective always helps.

 

A snack? Like... A bag of wise sour cream and onion chips? Hahaha
I mean friends like talk to her a lot? Probably not but they're still friends with her on Facebook which I'm not a fan of... She would never let me get too close to any of her friends which was ironic. She had a kid with the guy she cheated on me with so I'm sure she's got enough on her plate.

 

Well yea, not relatable in any way ever... That's probably why they don't get it

 

BFF and I set each other up once. When someone asks what was your worst date of all? We both tell the stories of those 2 dates. It was bad.

 

I'm fairly certain that, about a year and a half ago, I had the worst date in history. I'm sure we both blocked each other afterward.

 

Even though mine have failed, I still appreciate the gesture and learn a little more about myself.

 

I've never once had a friend try to set me up with someone but I'm thinking now that's probably a good thing.

 

I kinda feel you that loss of socialness part, work/school drain me to the point that interactions are kinda exhausting, and trying to go back to the very social person I used to be is also exhausting