(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 1214

Bumble sucks.

 

No

 

I'm put off by the friends of friends aspect of it. I don't necessarily want to meet people my facebook friends know tangentially

 

I like it because I didn't have to put the mental energy into starting conversations

 

Only bums on bumble. Sorry I don’t make the roolz

 

Bumzzz

 

go to your room

 

You’re not the boss of me daddy

 

Nate y

 

I'm meeting with a poly woman tonight who has been married for 10 years and has a boyfriend and a kid. Should be fun.

 

I wish I had something cool to share

 

I worked a beer event tonight where I mentioned something about a gentleman's wife where he then corrected me and pointed out someone else as his wife and then said "we're a swingers couple; we all fuck" and I was just thinking cool great very supportive of that community but i'm just tryin' tell you about these beers, bro

 

Me too

 

I found a mix my 10th grade girlfriend made me and I decided to listen to it today. It has The Gaslight Anthem, Goo Goo Dolls, Jimmy Eat World, Motion City Soundtrack, and Jack’s Mannequin. She had good taste.

 

date with poly married mother girl went great, we'll be hanging out again

 

Happy for you!

 

for my birthday my gf is getting me a Max Bemis feature for one my band's upcoming songs from his kickstarter. may have to bite the bullet and get married young.

 

Oof alright well my girlfriend and I just broke up mid August after being together for 4 years, but we’ve been best friends for a bit longer. It was the first real relationship either of us ever had and basically did everything you can do for the first time with another human while being together. I’m 23 (birthday was in July) and she’s 23 (her birthday will be in October). Although I understand we sorta lost our spark due to the ups and downs I’m guessing any first lovers would encounter, it still blindsided me like a truck full of concrete and it ended up being very messy because I didn’t think she was as over us being together as she told me so breaking up was the last thing on my mind. Although, looking back it makes sense since we probably shouldn’t have dragged it out, but it’s still the most painful thing to accept. Not having her in my life like it always has been has spiraled me into a depression and I even lost weight/ had some anxiety attacks at work because of how quick and hard to process it was. I’ll be honest I dug myself into a hole by making her my entire world in the sense that my eyes never wandered anywhere but in her direction since I fell in love with her and I didn’t myself the chance to develop any close friendships. As corny as it is to mention this we have a 1,166 snap streak and since we started talking in February 2014 not a single day has gone by where we haven’t spoken to each other. We’ve been on too many road trips and slept in her car while traveling too many times to count. We both helped each other through the worst shit either of us have experienced with losing friends, family, dogs, being kicked out, finding jobs, graduating college and us both struggling with traumas experienced before we met each other. I still love her dearly and I don’t think I ever won’t. We still text a tiny bit but it’s not the same as you could imagine. I’ll be forever grateful I’ve had her in my life and although I feel like an empty husk right now, I wouldn’t change a thing. I hope we both can grow from this. Ok stangers on the internet Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk :) I’ve been hazelnutsack95 have a nice Friday

 

Wow nice wall of text you big baby, ever hear about this thing called paragraphs?

 

How do you get friendzoned by someone who asked you out in the first place, you ask?

Hit me up for tips

 

I literally went through this same exact thing at the same exact point of time in my life as you did. It definitely takes some time to get over and readjust to your new life. Try to make new friends, do different things, find new habits or activities to get involved in. Try things out of your comfort zone. Anything to not only take your mind off the past and current situation, but to find new things to enjoy in life. Don't feel like you need someone. That was the hardest part for me. Sometimes I wondered, did I really love my girlfriend, or did I feel like I needed to be with her. There's a difference.

Also, I know this might sound hard, but may want to try to cut all contact with her. When this happened to me, my GF and I spent months of small chit chat here and there, even hung out every now and then, and every time we talked it gave me false hope that only made things worse for months and months (as you mentioned, you didn't think she was as over you guys as you thought - that's what I thought as well).

 

Don't give yourself such a hard time. Beautifully written, dearest HazelNutSack.

 

So I know y’all know my super fucked ex situation.
Well after months, he/we finally decided that he would go home (he officially moved back in with his mom and pays rent there but has been staying with me regardless for the past 3 months)
So he’s leaving tomorrow. And while I’m a complete mess trying to survive that AGAIN, he randomly talked to an old friend in another state and basically is excitedly trying to plan to move out there and stay with her like...next month.

To say I’m having a hard time is putting it lightly. It went from “we need to move on it’s for the best but we will wean off each other and still hang out/have sleepovers/ talk” to “next month I’m gong to say goodbye for good and might never see him again”
I’m so fucked

 

I'm sorry you're going thru this. I do think it helps in the long run to have a legit separation because the sleepovers and hang outs draw out the inevitable and sadness more, but that doesn't help in the right now when it's painful and lonely and feels like someone is like oop never mind moving on. But this is your time! Move to Washington tbh!!!

 

Ugh i'm sorry Amber, this stuff is so hard and complicated but look it's going to be painful but completely shutting down communication is the best possible thing you can do. Keep it that simple. Just do not talk to him and make it not possible. Otherwise if you talk every now and then you are keeping the wound fresh.