(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 23

Generally that means they were probably talking to someone they were more interested in or they're just not interested or at least weren't initially. Maybe they stopped talking to them and are willing to give you a chance now. I mean I'm not gonna lie if you dont reply to me within a few days I won't remember anything about you and have moved on from being interested because I assume I've been rejected.

 

I've given benefit so much that I've felt like a push over so my instinct says pass on this one.

 

It would be so much better if people were just honest with each other.

 

Nah, you'll get called "intense" and never talked to again lol

 

What others said. She was probably more interested in someone else and it didn't work out so you're next on the list.

I'm assuming you messaged her, she read it, looked at your page and didn't respond within a reasonable amount of time

 

I guess I don't understand the big deal of a potential date thinking they found a better fit, trying it out and then coming back after they learned something about the person or themselves. Maybe it's just me. I feel like that is actually how relationships work. But, what the fuck do I know?

 

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Why worry about what they were doing in the in between time

 

Sometimes I wouldn't respond to guys for a while cause idk what to say or I'm anxious. One time a guy gave me his number and it was right before Thanksgiving break and then finals so I forgot to text him ever oop. Sometimes life gets in the way

 

Yeah my gf and I met on OKC and we didnt respond or talk much for awhile after initially saying hey. One day she asked if I wanted to go grab a drink with her while I was on a lackluster date with someone else. Decided to go for it and fell in love within the hour. Doesnt always need to be great or responsive right off the bat on the internet. Might as well talk and go out to see if theres anything.

 

i'm super insecure, so lol, i would be kinda offended if they messaged back in like a week. like "oh, I'm number 2 thanks." I am changing that train of thought, because i do the same thing to other people and sometimes it isn't personal. life does get in the way...

i just joined tinder after getting out of a messy "relationship". i never do this online dating thing, but it's a confidence booster because i'm matching with people who i thought would be out of my league. i finally found someone that i'm having a genuine conversation with, but i'm not trying to get my hopes up in case something goes wrong.. and he takes my mind off the previous person. which i've been trying to do the past few months.

 

See, I seem to match with people I consider below my league. Maybe my standards are too high, haha.

 

haha maybe! or you have high confidence, nothing wrong with that

 

Haha, not at all! I probably shouldn't be looking for love on Tinder anyway

 

Man I just ran into my ex I haven't seen in like 5 years. I'm actually surprised it took this long. I always pictured it in my head as some big moment and me looking really good in a "ha! Look how boss I am now!" Way. Def not an awkward encounter in a grocery store where I have no makeup and a bright red pimple on my forehead. He just stared at me like a creepo. Like he was scared I was going to confront him or something idek so the entire time I was checking out he just stared at me. Then I ran into an old sorta crush and he was cute and nice still but I looked a mess so I wanted to die. Then on the way out of the parking lot someone almost backed into my car cause they were speeding out

Worst trip to the store I've had recently lol

 

I always wanted to put "I don't fuck around, 'cept for sometimes " as my tinder tag.

Instead i ended up just deleting it. I met a lot of really boring people on there.

 

Current person I'm seeing messaged me back like a month or two after only messaging me back once. She brought it up once saying she regrets taking so long but she didn't really use tinder ever and just forgot until she looked through it again one day.

Even if it was because she was trying something with someone else, I wouldn't really care. They thought that person would be a good match and they were wrong. You could end up being a great match despite their initial instinct -- there's no way to know these things for sure without trying. I don't think it reflects badly on either person.

 

I understand your points of view, good stuff folks. Glad we had a good dialogue. I dont think there's a right or wrong, everyone has different takes and feelings on the subject. That's what makes it interesting.

For me personally, I talk to a few people until I narrow it down to who I really like and feel I can click best with. Sometimes it doesn't work and I have to start all over but its best for not limiting any possibility. I just feel like when someone comes out of nowhere and is all of the sudden interested now its like "dammit, now I have to start allover and get to know this person?". That's why it kind of depends how you feel, if you read someone's profile and you didn't feel great about your interest before than I think its fine to ignore it and come back. If you like the profile and pictures and are like "I could see myself with them" there's a higher chance you might reply beforehand just in case they delete their profile or something.

 

If I don't respond right away that means at first I wasn't interested or I kept picturing us going on a date and feeling something off about it. Then life got in the way which caused my standards to go down so here I am saying "hi" because now they are just so much better.

But if I see that they signed on multiple times and chose not to reply then i'll just unmatch after a day or two.

 

I felt like I would match people people "below my league" when I used okc. That was when they're quick match gave you 3 people and you can Pass on the match but then they changed it and the people you passed on never went away

 

Met my GF on tinder and we messaged on and off for like 3 weeks before actually meting up. She said she was just kind of W/e about our convo and the prospect of actually Meeting.

 

Tried getting on Tinder and it keeps giving me an SMS error so I quit. I'll give it another shot in 6 months then I won't talk to anyone, delete it, and begin the cycle again.

 

I saw your snapchat post about going on tinder, haha. Seems like you're doing pretty well

 

I used tinder a decent amount but it was really hard to meet people who were into more than just hooking up and if they weren't they didn't talk much so I got bored. Its definitely fun in the beginning though, living in a big area it kind of is cool to match with people locally. Especially since every girl I've ever dated has lived at least an hour and change away.

 

See, and I've literally never come across someone 'just wanting to hook up.'

 

You're lucky, maybe it's just the people who matched up with me. Though there was one girl who I almost dated but she flaked and then got back with her abusive ex so... Ya. Not great tinder experiences for me haha