(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 852

No one likes to be uncomfortable, but when we force ourselves to is where we grow on the inside a fuck ton.

 

thanks guys I really do appreciate the varying responses and advice.

and like, on one level I know that everything being said is true, but on another level I don't really get it I guess.

Everyone just wants you to move on and want to be better and it's like..ya'll. I do not. I've accepted this place of sadness. I live in it now. it's cool.

 

You need to accept the truth. You know the saying, the truth shall set you free. It's painful but it really does set you free. Our wants in our head usually do not line up with what the TRUTH is. You get it, but don't want to accept it. I've been there many many times. I know it isn't easy at all. But it is absolutely necessary for you.

 

It just seems easier to give up tbh

 

I know it sucks, but you are so much more than your relationship

 

As someone who went through an emotionally and physically abusive relationship two years ago where I lived with the person and felt like I was stuck and didn’t want to go because of the small chances of happiness here and there, you do need to end it. It’s not worth the emotional turmoil you’re going through. Trust me. It’s hard as hell at first, but it’ll be so much better for your mental health once you’re out of it.

 

^^RT

 

I broke up with my girlfriend of three years and it came out of nowhere for her. I realized my feelings had changed. I still think she's a wonderful person and I want to remain friends as long as possible but I no longer loved her in a manner that was matching the amount she loved me. It was not fair to her for me to not be in the relationship 100%. So, I broke it off in October. I spent a lot of November still living in the same 1-bedroom apt as her and it was awkward and painful and she has told me she cried every single day for like six weeks straight -- hell, maybe she still does, I don't know. Point is, it sucks, it hurts and it's awful. It's going to be awful. Would you give someone who relies on drugs or alcohol the same leeway in terms of keeping it around for brief respites of happiness? No, we'd urge that person to get help and try to move on from that habit. I know it's not quite apples to apples, but keeping in a relationship for the small doses of happiness only makes the long stretches of unhappiness grow worse.

You're strong as hell. Stronger than you think you are. Everyone is. I think everyone in here can see that and everyone in here believes that you can make strides that benefit you in the long run, over a couple of hours of happiness over video games or a movie.

 

I like you guys and I think you're being sweet but I'm probably not in a very receptive place to hear it right now
(that doesn't mean I don't appreciate it, and maybe internalize it hopefully) but I just don't have much to say in reply except the same thing over and over about being miserable and not wanting to do anything about it.

 

Which is very understandable, just know that there's a ton of people here to support you no matter what happens

 

Completely understandable. More-so just wanted to put it out there, and you're able to come back to it at a time when you might be more receptive.

 

two days since this has been bumped. i blame the happy people with people who love them, you trash bandits

 

i'm starting to conflate loneliness with being ready for a relationship. ugh.

 

As a raccoon this slur offends me

 

I'm on the other side of the coin. A lot of the time, I'm feeling pretty great, but I recognise that I'm not really fussy on just messing around anymore, I'm hoping for a relationship. Unfortunately, I do also keep slipping into horrible morose, lonely days where I just feel like I'm doing everything wrong and I'm not where I want to be. I need to get better at meeting people really. Some days, I seem to be able to just make things happen, others I'm like a ghost.

Happy now? you've got someone grousing in here again.

 

hahaha i feel you. i don't want to "mess around" either. i'm the least horny i've ever been. i just want a girl who comes over and gets under blankets to waste Saturdays with me and talks music. the companionship aspect.

this makes me sound so lonely haha. i have plenty of friends around but i am the only single one.

 

my girlfriend and I are spending the weekend in Austin together

that's my update for the thread

 

My update: Things are still really great and I'm still nervous I will mess things up lol

 

Yeah but you also have to spend time with Chase

 

Same, keep powering through!

 

Who's Austin?

 

Your favorite movie yeah baby

 

my life still sucks

that's my update

 

do i???