(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 636

have you reached out to her since she's graduated or anything?

 

no, she graduated december that year. we have talked since, but only in the 2-3 months following the breakup, usually her being really upset and angry i was moving on. she deleted me off facebook but could still see a lot of stuff and when she saw i was with elena she was really really hurt by it, nothing since then. i can't in good faith strike up a convo with her while i'm dating someone no matter how rocky things are rn

 

honestly if i wind up single there's a 95% chance i open that wound and reach out eventually and i hate that i know that but i'm a fucking idiot and ya gotta commit to the gimmick lol

 

it could be a terrible idea or the best one you ever had

who's to say until you know

 

My “what if” person added me on Facebook the other day. She was my best friend of like six years, but things always happened that prevented us from ever dating even though we always had feelings for each other. She’s married now, it’s weird to see but I’m glad things worked out for her. Life is a strange journey sometimes

Anyways things didn’t work out with the person I was messaging from tinder so back to the drawing board

May have to go buy more shoes or something at a store an hour away

 

DO IT

 

bring your grandma

 

live stream it

 

^

 

"Ya never know know what you know now then", as they say.

 

Man, I got really drunk on Saturday night while watching football. This woman came over to my friends/his dads house and my friend has videos of her and I with each others shirts on, dancing. I don't remember that at all. She just sent me her phone number on Instagram. I think she's like 38

 

My work takes me to Metro Detroit like twice a week now so I tend to drive by exits to her city, and even though I'm in a healthy wonderful relationship of 3 years, I'm still like, "what if it'd been different?" It's a mind fuck and a half. Especially when I have a whole day of just driving around doing work so it's just me in my car and thoughts.

 

what do you do for work?

 

Sale rep for a local brewery.

 

amazing!

 

lol waking my girl up to smoke, letting her fall back asleep telling her ill wake her asking her if she wants to smoke again with me before bed has been my late nights as of late. its a pretty sweet gig. she gets her rest, I get the inevitably needed solo time all relationships need and we still get our lil smoke/night bond on lol.

 

lol sounds like an awesome synergy dude. glad it sounds like lifes a little more lax than it was a couple months ago for you two.

 

thanks man, it has calmed down quite a bit - still has its moments but it's largely stress cus of surroundings and the fact we both are very emotional and sensitive folks, growing up at the same time...... bound to bash a bit. February is 7 years though..... we're at a point its not a "lets just whine and kick it down the road" its always "So we working on this or is this gunna be the dumb shit that ends it?" which always leads to working it out lol.
and we both have similar baggage (emotional support depravity) in our lives with my fam never respecting my mental health stuff and her dad never even being someone she knew till she was 22... we just went about our coping differently.... I hermit/recluse, she fiends for attention/affection. biggest difference.

BLAH TL;DR being in your 20s in love sucks cus you have the best intentions but are still so confused/frustrated/clusterfucked by youth and the real world clashing.

 

Hah, thank you. It's good and bad. It's hard to complain about all of the perks of it, but I feel the pressure to be a salesman when I am not that at all; I'm not competitive enough for it. What has been good has been reassuring talks I have with other people who remind me that I'm more of a manager of relationships between the brewery I work for and our distributor. Essentially, I'm a mascot or a face that they can associate with the company so they buy more of our beer. So that helps. And it helps being a fat bearded white dude in the most fat bearded white dude dominated field of work like ever. Ups and downs. The travel has just started last week so I'm loving it. Feels pretty professional.

And basically being expected to drink beer with lunch during work is a pretty sweet perk.

 

anyone had to deal with a quarter life crisis yet?

I think I have that anxiety coming and going rn. Never had that before. It's kinda strong. How do you deal with it?

Had a bad break up a month ago that's triggering it.

 

I've been in quarter life crisis mode for a while now.

 

Wait aren't you like 20?

 

same. i deal with it by acting impulsively and self sabotaging my personal and professional relationships. it's working out GREAT

 

Get outta here and come back once you reach mid/late 20s, ya punk kid.

 

Come drink with me!