(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 627

Life is fleeting. Nothing means anything. Time is a human invention.

 

Balance and compromise is definitely key as long as both parties are willing to accept it and be on the same page and open about it, for sure!

To me, being in a complementary relationship has been the key to success.

 

That girl actually responded from the drunken message with "For sure!! It was great seeing you" so I guess I didn't come off as a TOTAL dick

 

Lmao. Did you ask her out? What was the “for sure” in response to?

 

I basically sent her my number and said we should get together before she moves in a month.

 

Nice

 

Ya'll ever accidentally facetime a girl while you're partially nude singing "Wonderful" by Everclear in extreme falsetto?

 

no but i have on purpose

 

no it was Santa Monica

 

I did it on accident, looked down at my phone and saw my face with the time count and freaked the fuck out trying to exit out

 

this thread made me see Colby in a completely different light

 

Uh oh.
Good or bad?

 

Hopefully she didn't pick up

 

not at all bad. I mean that in the best way possible. you gave some great advice in here and enlightened me about my own relationship a bit.

ya think ya know somebody

 

Hahah she texted me right after and apparently she did pick up but she didn't see me and her sound was off so i luckkeedddd out.

 

that was a close one

 

Yeeeesh. Just reading this makes my heart pound. I’m so scared of doing stuff like this

 

Siri must've picked up on some shit i was sayin' and called my most recent call God damn ios11

 

Honestly I'm glad to hear that! I say most things in a stream of consciousness manner and off the top of my head so if anything is intelligible, coherent, and actually makes sense and is relevant I'm glad.

My wife gets on to me constantly for making no sense haha.

 

late pass buuuuut i don't think a relationship needs to be forever to be valuable and meaningful. i basically go into relationships thinking it'll be somewhat longterm but i personally think it's not a super great mindset for me because the stage of life im in and the people around me are in just makes it so the things you want out of life are nebulous at best

still think if what i wanted was concrete and set in stone that a relationship doesn't have to be long to be meaningful and worth doing

 

I think in the past I forced things when I should've broken it off sooner. Some problems can def be worked thru if everyone is willing, and some should just know when to call it quits but sometimes the line gets blurred. I think if i look back and had a few relationships that were really meaningful to me and representative of where I was at that time and things just ran their course so we went separate ways, I'd be okay with that. I've always been fairly upfront about my commitment issues tho. A lot of my issues come from the idea that love doesn't really last and maybe someone will change my mind one day and that's cool, but for now I'm kinda shoulder shrug about it.

Tangent - I do find it interesting cause my friend is one of those who tried to work rly hard on a marriage I don't think was worth it and she's divorced now. She was telling me how someone was all wrong for me and that at least she warned me if it failed. And to me I'm like what's failure? I think to her failure = the relationship not leading to marriage, but that's def not failure to me. I'm like meh if we have fun and like hanging around each other for a lil while but then we don't mesh or it doesn't work out so we stop, that's not a failure at all. So talking relationships with that friend is hard cause we're so opposite lol

 

Yeah, I align closer to the latter. If it isn't going anywhere then I don't see a point.

 

I'm certainly at a point where I'm hoping to meet someone and start something serious. Unfortunately, I don't meet that many women who I tend to think I could be in a relationship with. Of the ones I've dated in the last 6 years, there's been maybe 2 and I misjudged both of them. So, that's not worrying at all.

That being said, of all the people I've dated in that time and had some form of relationship with (basically, that stage between first dates and figuring out whether you want to try it long term), I don't really consider many of them to be failures. They were just situations which ran their course. In most cases, I think that we've both known that however much fun we've had together, we weren't really right for each other for something more.

Although, that maybe does raise the question of what constitutes a failure.

 

Yeah I wouldn't consider that a failure by any means.

 

I met this new girl at my work today and she is just my type. I made the longest sigh to my co-worker because I’m not gonna even try.

The co-worker(female) was like hey I’ll be your wingman and I was like nooo.