(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 13

Once you get a taste of sleeping next to someone, sleeping alone in your own bed really sucks.

 

Sleeping with someone was my least fave part. When ppl wanna cuddle and are like breathing on me I'm so miserable.

 

Something that has bothered me is that I'm decent friends with most of my ex's and people have told me that it means we didn't care about each other enough. If we did we wouldn't be friends.That comment has always stuck with me and it's really fucked up, imo.

 

Unless my bed is 10ft wide, sharing it is going to be a challenge.

Aimless drives at 2am, though - where's the person who's into that?

 

I feel like a weirdo stalker. I sorta liked a guy in hs. Not like pining after him or writing his name in my notebook or anything but he seemed like a nice cool guy. Nothing even close to happened. It was just a passing thought I had. Until years later when it dawned on me that he liked me too and it was so obvious and I was oblivious lol. I wonder so much about the what ifs. I know it's cause shortly after I ended up getting in my terrible unhealthy relationship and it's the idea of the guy and the path I could've taken more so than the actual guy, but I feel weird for thinking of him still. I don't have a fb so idk what he's up to or what he looks like. I don't even remember what he looked like back then. But I feel like I need to see him to finally stop wondering what could've happened. I know once I see him it'll be like "oh, he's just a normal human" and not this alternative blissful life I could've had if I'd dated him instead of my ex. Idk im weird.

 

Never knew it existed, but this thread has made me feel so much better about being 24 and never having had a "serious" boyfriend.. NYC dating scene is miserable

 

God I think about this nonstop. So many times I was completely oblivious to something that could've been great.

 

@Kiana I don't know what it's like to have someone be into me. I don't know if I'd rather remain oblivious to someone who may have liked me back in high school or whatever, if that were the case.

 

Right? My awkwardness and anxiety was waaay worse back then so I think I missed a lot of opportunities. And in terms of this dude I think I was inadvertently super rude to him. He'd try to make convo with me and I did not understand what he was trying to do so I was kinda short with him and unintentionally mean. I think I was that way with a lot of ppl tho oops

 

Oh man, my condolonces. That was a tough situation to be in. My second relationship was incredibly toxic and I honestly did not realize until everyone had to point it out. It's not easy cutting ties with someone who has been largely present in your life most especially if she was there for years.

 

I feel like this may have been me at times in middle school/high school. I was also going through a lot back then so I was probably unintentionally mean to people in general and I feel bad about it.

 

That's definitely the way to go imo.

EDIT: thinking about it now, it's not as good as I thought. But I don't know. Better to try than regret not doing anything.

 

It's always a risk too when you're from the same group bc it royally screws shit up when it doesn't work out. 2 of my closest friends broke up which weirded out our whole group bc of the fighting. I was put in the middle and they would both talk to me about everything and it almost ruined all of us.

 

Sounds scary, in my opinion.

 

Unrequited love, my friend

 

Is it true in your case though? I was optimist enough to think that would work but all it ever did to me were awkward facebook posts. She likes my post with my SO every now and then though but I couldn't think of a response that wouldn't make it sound smug or insincere even if I wanted to. Was wondering if that's the same with you guys.

Friending exes stance: sounds doable on paper only

 

Sounds more like unhealthy infatuation, in my opinion.

 

I don't get it. Wouldn't it be the other way around? If you're still friends, that means you still care?

I think I have too much anxiety to immediately jump into dating someone I'm not already comfortable with. Dating apps do not appeal to me at all.

I think it's shitty for someone to complain about being "friendzoned" because they think they're entitled to sex or something, but I'm honestly scared to hear the words "Sorry, I only think of you as a friend" from someone I've been getting to know for a year or more.

Yikes. Now that you mention it, I think one of my friends was caught in the middle of her friends' break-up in the same way, or something similar. But yeah, as zibbigwig said, I think it's worth trying. Too early to think about the repercussions of breaking up.

 

There's a story behind it

 

There always is.

 

1. Well, you got nothing to lose right? While we don't have the same problems, I kind of understand where you're coming from, trying really hard to get something that's seemingly out of reach and beyond your control. It is very frustrating. It's cheesy, but you have to keep doing new things! It's not the rainbow at the end of the tunnel, and this is definitely not a Hugh Grant film, but crippling fear doesn't help either. At the very least you can say you tried and who knows maybe you pick up something new about yourself.

 

@zigbigwig @xkhiemster I mean friends where we still talk to each other and hang out every now and then. It's not awkward at all for us BUT their new SOs do have a problem with it which I totally understand. It doesn't happen as often when they're in a new relationship but we don't talk shit about each other and they make it out like if you really care about each other you'll hate each other after you break up. That's just never been the case with me except for like one person and that's bc he cheated on me. That might not answer both questions but I think it did?

 

@AelNire yup it did answer the question. I don't hate my exes but I don't think I have an undo button. i can transition from friends to a relationship, sure, but going back? How? There's so many little things, little habits that is so hard to get rid of and it would just end up being awkward I feel like.

 

This thread and the new 1975 album. Shit.

 

Right? If I'm in the right mood, Somebody Else just wrecks me.