(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 466

I have a dry sense of humor that is appreciated by some. I'm not good at being witty when I first meet someone tho. I have to get to know them before I feel comfortable doing that

 

Absolutely. Same here. But man, when I get comfortable I am the wooooorrst.

 

The only way that I'm funny is in describing the things that happen to me at work or one of my regrettable dates and hook ups. I do not make good decisions

 

Takes me awhile to be funny. I'm the opposite of soft skeleton. Someone has to get me as a person before I'm comfortable and not awkward with making well timed jokes. For her it seems like they have to get the jokes to get her haha.

 

I usually don't try that hard to be funny, I'm always better at it when I'm opportunistic than when I feel like I need to be funny to be interesting (see: dates)

 

I'm so quiet when I meet someone new, it sucks. When I'm comfortable with someone though, I think I'm pretty fun to be around. It's just the time it takes to break out of my shell with someone new that sucks

 

right there with y'all

I know a lot of the jokes I make are dumb, but if I'm having a good time I look for any opportunity

 

If I try I freeze up haha. There's gotta be like a 75 percent lack of consciousness to what I say.

 

I'm super quiet IRL and second guess everything I say

 

I use jokes to get comfortable, when I'm comfortable with someone I stop being as funny but I have an extremely hard time being social but know people like humor so my wit comes out when I'm uncomfortable and trying to fit into an unfamiliar situation

 

I actually struggle with trying to not make a joke all the time. I find myself not staying in the moment and just 'being' in the conversation. Instead, I'm looking for my next little time to make a quip about the topic/person/place/whatever. It gets kind of tiring and I feel like it becomes expected of me -- which is just in my head, my friends don't care if I'm funny or not -- but I don't know how to be any other way.

 

Whenever I find myself thinking things like that about myself, I think "would this make me an asshole if I thought it about someone else?" And I usually ignore the answer because I'm not thinking it about someone else but it's a good exercise in theory.

 

Definitely tend to up the jokes if I'm uncomfortable, but if I'm crashing and burning with them all I'll just clam up completely

 

I do this when I watch movies with other people. I don't do it at the actual theater but if I'm watching in my living room or something i have to make myself shut up. Nobody wants my commentary but for some reason it's hard for me to shut up lol

 

I need to not be so guarded around people. The other day a guy I was intrigued about told me I was being argumentative. I don't care like inherently if I'm argumentative cause some ppl deserve to be argued with so whatever. And he didnt say it in a necessarily negative tone, but that wasn't the actual vibe I was trying to put out at all and I didn't intend to argue or really have anything I cared to argue about but I apparently did it anyway. I think it's just my pushing people away deal? But I need to figure that nonsense out. Not a fan.

 

I feel like I'm alllllways the one carrying the conversation and asking questions and stuff. I want to meet someone else who is super inquisitive. With that said, I also need to learn to accept when there's just not anything to says and just enjoy the moment I guess. Which obviously isn't a problem with people I'm super close with but whenever I'm talking to someone new I feel this pressure to keep the conversation going.

 

It's tough because if you respond with "I'm not being argumentative!" it's automatically considered being argumentative

 

Anyone heard of a site called meetmindful? Saw an ad for it today and I can't tell if it's solid or lame af. Online dating still seems daunting to me so I guess it doesn't matter.

 

Back to our conversation earlier this week. I'll be waiting for y'all to slide into my DMs

 

i wish I was able to carry the conversation with people more. I just never have questions to ask actually pop into my head so it's just blank.

 

Are you ok with it being quiet? When it's with someone new, I mean. I have no issue cuddleing or holding hands in silence but if we aren't physical at all yet and it's quiet it sucks.

 

Depends on how much I've seen the person. On first dates, nah, I want that conversation. That's what makes me blanking on questions frustrating. In general, though, I'm perfectly content with silence if I'm with my friends or my girlfriend.

 

late to the party but, if you gotta post how witty you are... idk man...

 

I have an extra ticket to see rise against deftones and thrice in Chicago tomorrow looking for any interested females to go with

 

This girl with the ex drama is telling me to run away, her life got worse

Bummer