(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 455

lol I'm overthinking this shit too much as of it actually matters haha. The worst that happens is they ignore and I continue living my life

 

Overthinking is all part of courting/dating/swiping.

Like, for example, pretty sure me and the girlfriend are coming out of the honeymoon phase, and like, things are feeling repetitive and like, we're not attached at the hip anymore and all the cutesy, early relationshippy shit is kinda stopping. I feel as though this is a good thing, as it means your relationship is developing and becoming more solid, but also just kinda flat, but a good flat. Again, overthinking probably though.

Any tips on keeping my head up through this transition?

 

Here's some I sent that got responses:

" Hi I like strange girls and also dogs" (based on things in her profile)

"Hey, I love your hair! Such an awesome color" (she had no bio but cool hair)

"Hey, hope you're having a great evening! I'm dragging my feet about actually going out to do something" (no bio)

"I would like a donut. Ok 4, that's the proper serving size of donuts." (Donut joke in bio)

 

This is a tough and critical spot in relationships. The make or break point imo. When I get there I'm usually pretty vocal about with my partner and acknowledge that we need to start doing new things together, or even new things individually.

 

Bunch of cute girls at my new job and every. single. one. of. them. is. engaged.

And not like engaged and getting married in 3 years. No, all of them are getting married in the next 3-4 months. So like, kind of late in the game to try and ruin those relationships. Probably for the best I don't gotta sweat it out and have awkward overanalyzed moments every day with these people.

 

I feel as though like, we're solid. Granted it's only been a short time, but like, just the way we bounce off each other, I feel as though we'll both feel this is a natural and good transition into a 'formed' relationship, as opposed to a 'new' one.

 

I really, really love getting out of the honeymoon phase. To be able to gain back that part of myself I lose as I sink into my partners life for that period of time is awesome. It's much needed, too, 'cause it's a chance to regain my own identity and to also have my partner do the same.

 

That post makes a lot of sense.

Feeling that exact way and getting into that rhythm, while encouraging her to do the same.

 

I just swiped right on a girl named "Dorota" solely with the intentions of saying, "Sup, Dorito?" if we match.

I'm five.

 

I can guarantee she's gotten that a million times in her life lol.

 

No doubt about it

Question: Does it show if somebody has read your message?

 

me and my gf get into fights over the dumbest shit but the actual serious shit that should cause fights is so easy for us to resolve lol. and even when we do fight we blow up for like under an hour then we're good. we just need to have that release sometimes.

 

and once you're out of that stage is when i feel you really start to figure out what your identity as a couple actually is, not the rose colored lovey dovey everythings perfect version but the real identity of how you're going to function as a unit, and if its gonna work at all even. it felt really good leaving the honeymoon phase and realizing me and my girlfriend were still gonna be rock solid once all that initial stuff was gone. especially once i fucked up and relapsed and she stood by me. that sold it for me.

 

we only fight with the people we care about! better than holding everything in, that's toxic.

 

it can get intense, some fights have gotten real real intense, but once its all out in the open and we're past letting our emotions taking over we always settle down, talk it out, and realize one, or both, usually both, of us was being stupid and we move on from there. it works for us

 

i have i kinda like this girl at work but i think she has a little thing with a manger

 

A contract?

As for first messages on Tinder, I normally try to say something based on something they've said in their profile or some observation about their pictures (not a compliment). Although, I did get caught out with that with a girl who had Spotify connected and had selected a Pup song as her anthem. I started talking about that and she had no idea what I was talking about, so that went well.

If their profile says nothing about them, I'll often say something like "Hi, your profile is kind of bare, so maybe you should tell me one thing about yourself that I should know.". That's about the only stock one I use.

 

sounds like it's a bot profile. bot profile's tend to have interesting names and then say the same thing between all profile. they'll have 4 grainy photos and their location is usually a major world city not near you.

no, no read receipts on tinder.

 

Back to normal anxiety level

 

Girl I've been seeing a fair bit of has made it clear that she'd much rather not wait until tomorrow to see me, which is nice.

Can't pretend I wouldn't rather like her company too...

 

I may be hitting the biggest regret of my life right now, and if someone has the next 30 minutes or hour (and the stomach) to talk me through it I would really appreciate it.

 

What's up

 

What's going on?

 

Definitely calmed down a lot now. I'll give it some more thought and let you guys know what happens.

Thanks a bunch thread.

 

Think it applies to everyone though, not just men.

Men of reddit, what problem do men have that you wish women understood more? • r/AskReddit

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