The Parenting Thread • Page 28

I've told them but I don't think they get it

Because they're already getting a brother from their mom and her boyfriend (well, now fiance) so when I tell them they're getting a new sibling they're like "Yeah I know!" hahahaha, they haven't yet processed that it's yet another sibling

 

I just want to say thanks to everyone for replying support and feedback. I still don't know how to handle this, so I'm just trying to take it an hour at a time. So much stress and anxiety, this decision was mine ultimately, I know this, but it was because of her actions. So while I didn't want to pull the trigger, I felt like I needed to for my own sanity so I could stop living in fear of doing or saying the wrong thing, or trying to change for her without the getting the same.

 

no problem, we are here any time if you need to vent. taking it a day/hour/etc at a time is the best thing you can do. My advice going forward would be spend as much time with your child as you can. When you don't have them, do things/find new things that make you happy or at the very least take your mind off of the split. Shit posting on here helped me a lot haha.

 

That's how I got into MMOs

So yeah ask the Sex and WoW thread for advice on starting WoW (or FFXIV)

 

I actually started Grand Jury duty a few weeks ago, it's a four month assignment, and we work from 9-930 until like 130-200. I get off work at 2PM! Most people wouldn't complain but it just sets me up for anxiety. I can only go to the gym, hike, bike, etc. for so long before I'm completely bored out of my mind and no longer distracted. The days I have my kid are fine, it's the days I don't I struggle.

 

Happy Father's Day to all the dads in here!

 

Hell yeah! Happy Father's Day everyone!

 

Love my boy, hope everyone had a great Father's Day.

 

My son turns 3 on Sunday. Where does the time go?

 

Mine's about to be 6 in July. I'm right there with you!

 

So this whole two kids thing...way crazier than one! Obviously, I know, but I forgot how taxing these first few months can be.

 

I'm gonna be in this boat in 6-8 weeks and it's really starting to freak me out.

 

Holy fuck I jinxed myself. My son has been the DEVIL the past month. Like punching, kicking, throwing screaming all the time now. It's awful. Think he's starting to realize he won't be the only child around soon ( baby 2 is on it's way soon) so he's freaking out...or maybe it's just normal?

It's been a real tough month with him.

 

My son has been a terror lately - throwing fits, being a pain at bedtime, hitting, not sitting for dinner. It's becoming so tiring...

 

Yeah, my son used to go to bed great...now? Not so much.

 

You guys stop with the bedtime stuff!

My son had been in the other phases for awhile but still sleeps amazing, I don't want it to trickle down from y'all

 

It took a good 18 months for my son to really sleep well. Then he slept great for about a year and all of a sudden, he refuses to go to bed at night. I think a lot has to do with it being summer and it being light out til 930. But once he falls asleep, he still sleeps through the night, thank God.

 

I'm curious what your (and others in the threads) bedtime routine is like?

 

There are two varying routine:
1) I put my son down. Goes like - after bath, i brush his teeth with him, wife changes/reads him story or two, then I sit in a chair sing a song or two with lights off (favorites are BN deja era or Dashboard), put him in bed sit next to him for a bit singing a few more songs (TBS maybe).

2) Wife puts him down. Goes like - after bath, wife brushes his teeth, I change/read him story or two, then wife takes him and a hour later calls me into the room and I finish out rest of #1 above.

it hasn't been too bad until recently, last week or so. He just FIGHTS and pushes boundaries/buttons.

 

What is really funny and 100% true, is that no matter how excited or worked up he is, or just angry - when I start singing any Brand New song (usually Okay I Believe You... or Jesus Christ) he will IMMEDIATELY calm down, lay and doze off.

Works. Every. Time.

 

Interesting so he ONLY falls asleep with someone else in the room?

This is great!

 

This is me right here.

 

Nothing major on our end...we typically start turning off the lights downstairs around 8 p.m. so he knows it's time to calm down/stop running around, then we let him sit on the couch with his blanket and milk for 20 to 30 minutes so he can watch Mickey or whatever on DVR. Then we let him pick out two cars to go to bed and typically I'll walk upstairs with him and tuck him in and give him his stuffed bunnies and he cuddles his bunnies and his cars and goes to bed. For a good year, that was a great routine and he didn't cry or try to get out of bed, but with the summer time light still shining in his room (despite blackened shades) I think he feels he's still 'missing out' on play time because it's light. That said, he never really tries to get out of bed, just cries himself to sleep.

I wish I could say we read more books to him, but we don't read a lot to him. He's starting pre-school when he turns 3 in September, so we'll really start with the books then (even though he has TONS of books and is interested in them).

When he was really, really young, I'd let him sit with me by my record player and I'd play music until he fell asleep in my lap and then I'd put him in his crib.

 

My son also goes to sleep with little cars, haha.

 

Yup, only falls asleep with someone present and leaving the room with creaky wood floors/door is a nerve-wracking affair.

Yeah, it's the funniest thing. EVERY TIME it works. Now it's at the point where I'll say "if you lay I'll sing you a song" and he'll lay down and cover up