(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 440

Weird is good

Edit: well, weird CAN be good lol

 

I like that snail story

 

me: *messages girl on OKC"
girl: *responds back*
me: that can't be right"
*reports as 'fake profile'*

 

I always imagined heartbreak would be a terrible feeling, but it's honestly the worst feeling I've ever felt. The only thing that's really making me feel calmer is music right now. I just want her back. This is such a disaster.

 

Maybe in a few months if I'm doing okay, I'll try online dating- again. Now is not the right time. I think also now I'm going to look for someone who is spiritual, or somewhat religious. I'm thinking about accepting Jesus back in to my life. For a long time I stopped believing, and I want to work on believing again, or at least have something to believe in. Not to the point where I'm super crazy about it like some people are. The people that I know that believe, either social media friends or the elderly in the home I work in, seem to get by each day and the bad days a lot better because of it. I've always felt a sense of comfort whilst looking at this church steeple back when I was younger, and being in an empty church surrounded by stained glass windows. Or maybe I should just start going to church and meet a guy there.

 

Sorry duder. One of the worst feelings ever.

Also, we're avatar buddies. *waves from across the internet*

 

Late pass on this but this is the worst. Been talking with this girl and I'm getting nothing but one word responses.

"Hey so besides comedy and marvel what kinda stuff are you super into?"

"Music"

"Nice, I remember you mentioned Aimee Mann in your profile! Who else do you dig a ton?"

"New Pornographers"

The worst

 

The majority of the time one word responses from people means:

1) They're busy while responding
2) they're not interested
3) they're pissed (at you or others)
4) you're new to them and they don't feel a connection so they're not going to waste their time with detailed / time consuming responses

 

Ugh I'm definitely overthinking how to set up a second date.

 

At least she has good taste in music

 

is okcupid just like tinder?

 

Probably less members and slightly more looking for a long-term relationship. At least in my area

 

ayy I got a girls number and was talking about paramore too lol!

great minds think alike chase.

 

I just re-read the last message she sent me. I feel so awful now. I shouldn't have done that.

 

My ex had left a reminder on my laptop when we were together saying I love you and I got it like a month after we broke up lol. Sorry though, always sucks but it gets better

 

That's awful dude. The last message she sent me she said she still loves me but can't make our relationship work due to an outside force preventing her from doing so (won't get too much into the details of it, it's a really long story). I can only hope that eventually she'll find a way to make it work & we can get back together somehow but I don't want to get my hopes too high.

 

I'm drunk as fuck at Bay to Breakers and just made out with a random beautiful French girl and got her number. Praise be

 

Re-connected with two girls (who were friends) years ago, both were super into me. One, I stopped talking to because she didn't believe in science and facts. The other one was super into me and wanted to hang out later that week, she was forward and even told me she liked me. Fast forward to the day we agreed to hang out and she gave me details that were really silly, I don't go out late anymore at allll and I guess she didn't know that. She wouldn't give me any info until day of, a few hours before either...

I think her crush probably just went away because she stopped talking to me in the days leading up to hanging out, or at least that's what I would assume. It was a new few days I guess? I'm not really into girls with kids anyway so it's probably for the best. She hasn't messaged me at all today either, probably best not to bother messaging her anymore, right?

 

Yea..I think it'd behoove you to give her a pass.

 

Pass in what way, like not bother anymore?

 

Yea. It sounds like she really hasn't figured out what she wants yet. I think if she reaches out to you it'd be a good opportunity to figure out what her intentions are and move forward from there. Plus, diving in to a relationship with someone with kids could be great if you're comfortable with it, but if you're not, I think it'd be best to move on.

 

Oh okay, that's my current though. I just wanted to make sure that's what you meant.

I was pretty open minded, I just wanted to hang out a few times and see how it felt first. Theyre very introverted and I think that's why I'm being ignored more than anything, I'm just gonna lay low for awhile and if I randomly get blocked then whatevs

 

Everyone grieves differently, and that's okay, but I'd encourage you to partake in as little communication as possible. Obviously I don't know anything about your specific situation, but through experience I've found that fully letting go of any future potential has been the most helpful in moving on. Holding on to those hopes can hinder opportunities for other potential relationships, and you don't want to put yourself in that position. It's not fair to you.

 

Gotchya. I guess if you think her being introverted is the reason, maybe you should reach out. Maybe she thinks that you're not interested you know? Maybe just some lack of communication.